About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Introduction to the survey I don’t think this survey is representative of all men. To a certain extent, it’s a survey of feminist-leaning men. The initial respondents came generally from that POV, and as the survey grew, it was mostly shared by feminists. That said, it does represent many other viewpoints. For example, there were a few hundred in a row where it was mostly being filled in by Men’s Rights Activists. But whatever their starting point, the men filling in the survey had Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
Yes
How would you define patriarchy?
Male-dominated society (in short)
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Patriarchy is self-perpetuating, so though it most obviously hurts women, it hurts men as well giving us unhealthy views on gender roles, sexuality, God, etc.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
When I was younger, I used to tell chauvinistic jokes–all in fun, of course. Not realizing the pain and/or frustration I probably caused others.
How would you define masculinity?
Being male.
Does misandry exist?
I don’t know what misandry is!
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Maybe
Probably in ways that has advantaged me, perhaps without even realizing it. Perhaps in ways that disadvantaged me too though–based on sexuality or attraction?
What best describes you?
An egalitarian
Christian egalitarian/feminist
Does patriarchy exist?
Yes
How would you define patriarchy?
male hegemony – a conscious unconscious
How has patriarchy hurt you?
By defining a set of expectations that, though unspoken, expect certain attitudes towards violence, pain, and independence, that quite frankly I am unable to meet. Moreover – this is a position from which it is contemptible to complain, couched as it is in privilege
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
Probably through dismissing and diminishing others through humour, and resentment – a feeling of threat to my own position (and my expectation of my position).
How would you define masculinity?
badly
Does misandry exist?
I don’t know what misandry is!
For Christ sake – why do we always assume the world is binary. Misogyny is cause by a set of expectations that are woven into the fabric of society – to attempt to deconstruct that does not automatically assume a hatred, or a prejudice. This is the rage of the realignment of a society – yes there is pain, but that doesn’t presuppose a conscious attack.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Only in a way that has advantaged me
What best describes you?
A feminist
Does patriarchy exist?
Yes
How would you define patriarchy?
Male do inance
How has patriarchy hurt you?
not aware thatvit has
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
hope bot
How would you define masculinity?
wary of attempting to recognise unversak characteristcs
Does misandry exist?
I don’t know what misandry is!
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Maybe
What best describes you?
An equalist
Does patriarchy exist?
Yes
How would you define patriarchy?
Men and their needs and opinion disproportionately affect society.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
It hasn’t.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I have treated women unfaithfully and not felt enough guilt.
How would you define masculinity?
Confidence in your ability to get the partner(s) you desire.
Does misandry exist?
I don’t know what misandry is!
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Maybe
What best describes you?
An egalitarian
Does patriarchy exist?
Yes
How would you define patriarchy?
A society or section of society ruled/controlled/dominated by men to the exclusion of women
How has patriarchy hurt you?
It doesn’t just me but it is bizarre that your gender should define your position in any society.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I don’t believe I ever have.
How would you define masculinity?
Simply – displaying traits that society accepts as typically or exclusively male.
Does misandry exist?
I don’t know what misandry is!
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Yes
In meetings a woman asks a question to a man and that man answers another man instead of her.
What best describes you?
An equalist
Does patriarchy exist?
No
How would you define patriarchy?
A made up word for complaints about socierty and being a victim
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Cant be hurt by fiction
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
No
How would you define masculinity?
Doing what needs to be done even if it isnt pretty or fun or easy
Does misandry exist?
I don’t know what misandry is!
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
No
What best describes you?
None of the above
regular
Does patriarchy exist?
Yes
How would you define patriarchy?
the top is for men only
How has patriarchy hurt you?
rich men are always pissing down on the poor
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
not knowingly
How would you define masculinity?
as something that archetypally man are better at than archetypal woman
Does misandry exist?
I don’t know what misandry is!
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Maybe
What best describes you?
An egalitarian
Does patriarchy exist?
Yes
How would you define patriarchy?
Precedence given to men in almost all things warranted or not
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Out moded view of the world hurts men’s ability to find a place in a more equal society
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I don’t often fight against things that benefit me.
How would you define masculinity?
Reasonably traditionally. Reconciling it to the modern world is difficult
Does misandry exist?
I don’t know what misandry is!
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Yes
What best describes you?
Nice guy
Does patriarchy exist?
Yes
How would you define patriarchy?
Male dominance
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Probably in ways I don’t understand
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I hope not
How would you define masculinity?
Being a male
Does misandry exist?
I don’t know what misandry is!
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
No
What best describes you?
An ally to feminism
Does patriarchy exist?
Yes
How would you define patriarchy?
A society in which men hold the power.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
through suppressing women and therefore limiting their ability to positively influence the world. And too many wars.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I hope not. Probably have though.
How would you define masculinity?
typically male characteristics
Does misandry exist?
I don’t know what misandry is!
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Only in a way that has advantaged me
What best describes you?
An ally to feminism