Respondent 831

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

The presumption that masculine authority is the default.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Less than it has helped me, honestly, but the books and movies are SO BORING, ugh, I don’t want to read about middle aged moral angst or watch a loner anti-hero again.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Thoughtlessness. Assumption that invisible identities were in fact not there.

How would you define masculinity?

At its best, to be masculine is to seek power and to take responsibility for using power with compassion. At its worst to be masculine is to merely exercise power.

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 826

Does patriarchy exist?

No

How would you define patriarchy?

Respondent skipped question

How has patriarchy hurt you?

How has what doesnt exist hurt me?

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Do i summon the patriarchy demon in efforts to hurt people? Thanks for the advice.

How would you define masculinity?

Loyalty, defense.

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

What best describes you?

An egalitarian

Respondent 824

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

An unjustified segregation of power and influence biased towards the male gender with defined roles, behaviors and language reinforced by codifying success or failure based on your adherence to these unwritten but easily identifiable standards. These standards are based largely on societal pressures to conform to common and outdated gender stereotyping which is both unnecessary and unjustified

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Growing up I was exposed to both masculine and feminine influences and found both to applicable to my life. Enacting these influences lead to school bullying as I was not acting in a way expected of my sex. In my adult life I still try and combine both masculine and feminine aspects together, both internally for my own life and externally in the way that I try not to apply gendered roles or expectations on to other people. As a bisexual male I also experience and are sometimes included in a perception that queer men (taken to mean gay/bisexual/trans/genderfluid/asexual) are somehow not “real men” due to their attitudes and language not matching that of their gender role.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

In groups of men engaged in misogynistic conversation, whether serious or joking I have sometimes joined in with this language, hurting or insulting people in the purpose of finding acceptance within the group. I also unconsciously gender my language when talking to both genders; being more “feelings oriented” when speaking to women and not asking similar questions of my male friends. It was not until I thought about my answer that I realised this so if nothing else than shaping my thoughts, this survey has given me a goal to reduce the genderfication of my language.

How would you define masculinity?

Masculinity is a set of ideals that are applied to males from birth, even before they are self aware and reinforced to females by their exclusion from masculine behaviours. Typical masculine traits are along these lines: Strong (mental,physical and emotional) Good with manual and skilled labour. Interests in typical masculine hobbies (cars, military, computer games etc.) The list could continue for some time.

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

Misandry as an ideal could theoretically exist as females who have experienced patriarchal oppression either consciously or unconsciously give less weight masculinity in favour of females who align with their own set of ideals and dismiss or ignore those of the traditional patriachy.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

I have experienced prejudice that has advantaged me and that has not. The prejudice that has not advantaged me is minor compared to the prejudice that most females endure but I will include for comparison. The typical prejudices I encounter are language and behavioural; I experience peoples assumptions on my tastes and hobbies based on my outward gender. I have (less in later/current life) been mocked for being more emotional than is gender typical, for having hobbies and interests that are feminine and for finding some masculine pursuits uninteresting. In social situations I am not asked to attend some events because there is a perception that as they are not masculine I would not enjoy them and similar situations that whilst are not ideal, do not leave me significantly personally disadvantaged.

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 813

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Conscious and unconscious perception of gender politics with unequal balance systemically towards men who confirm to a ‘traditional’ role.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Unable to properly express emotion without stigma.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Judged women previously based on how they should behave. i.e Used promiscuity as an insult.

How would you define masculinity?

Good question?

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

I don’t think it’s systemic in the same way as misogyny but could be experienced by individuals angry about gender inequality or as reaction to misogyny.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 816

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

An institutional, societal, cultural and economic bias toward men, and perceived masculine traits and ideals.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Patriarchy has hurt me whenever I acted in such a way, that didn’t conform to “masculine ideals.” Being bullied and excluded at school because I didn’t play football and had quite a few female friends. They called me ‘gay’ as if it were an insult, (which I suppose to them, it was) even though I wasn’t in fact, gay. Though, if were to explain to them that I was asexual, they probably wouldn’t even accept that it exists. Many still don’t, because y’know, men are always looking for their next fuck, right? These days, I’m glad that I can wear those tall, women’s boots and watch My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic, and have only to contend with the occasional raised eyebrow.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Sometimes, I did. When the same people who bullied me rounded on someone else, I would sometimes join in. As low down on the social hierarchy as I was, at least there was someone “girlier”, “gayer”, “weaker” than I was.

How would you define masculinity?

I wouldn’t define it at all. Those ideals and traits that we have segregated by gender; strength, courage, power for boys and grace, tact, compassion for girls, exist in both, in equal measure. They aren’t instilled in some and not others, and they can’t be turned on like a breaker switch. The best any of us can hope for, is that we can summon up a little of them when the time calls for it.

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Maybe

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 801

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Systemic ways that accrue and maintain power onto straight white men, by removing or not placing barriers in their way, or assuming the absolute best from their actions. Giving greater agency to straight white men than to anyone else, and calling anyone else “other”

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Assumptions made when I have had struggles in life.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Yes. Often without conscious effort. How is difficult to understand.

How would you define masculinity?

An inner core of manufactured bullshit surrounded by gentle societal prodding in a certain direction around it.

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

In ways that have ultimately advantaged me, even when, especially when it did not seem like in the immediate moment.

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 793

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A system (deliberately created or otherwise) in which men hold a majority of the power, specifically over women.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Short answer is that it hasn’t, it has helped me. More broadly some aspects are so internalised that I am a worse person for it and it took me far to long to realise this.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I have probably made assumptions about people in a way that has made them feel less valued.

How would you define masculinity?

Almost everything about myself that I dislike.

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

It probably does exist but is in no way supported and encouraged by society. I often see it used in an ironic, empowering, or consciousness raising way

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

Since a very early age I have wanted to wear women’s clothes and explore my feminine side – I consider that a part of who I am (I’m straight and still fully identify as male). When I have expressed a desire to do so I have faced rejection and disgust from those I care about most and who are supposed to care about me

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 794

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A system of ideology and power relations that enshrines male identification, male centredness, male domination, and venerates control and domination over others.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

It has made me almost entirely unable to express emotion in what I would consider a healthy way (“real men don’t cry” etc).

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I have treated women I have been in relationships with fairly appallingly in the past, because of feelings of entitlement that I think patriarchy imbues all men with. Eg asking for sexual favours they might not have been comfortable with, generally being manipulative.

How would you define masculinity?

The ideal of behaviour that patriarchy says men must meet, which basically involves always being “strong” and in control of oneself and others, never showing emotion except for anger, valuing violence and domination as a way of solving problems, and denigrating anything deemed to be feminine.

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

I have always felt more misandry from men than women. For example, men who hold that “boys will be boys” and deny that men can be responsible for themselves, whereas feminists in particular seem to view men as being capable of being better than patriarchy says they can be.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Maybe

There are plenty of prejudices surrounding (straight, white, cisgender) men, but I don’t think these amount to the oppression that people outside that description face.

What best describes you?

An ally to feminism

Respondent 786

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A society governed by and for the benefit of men. In practice, this means the systemic privilege conferred for simply being a man and, therefore, the oppression of women.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

I am forced to consider the fact that half the population is oppressed and I am part of the oppressing group. That is uncomfortable and makes me feel guilty. It also means that the opinions of half the population are given less weight and exposure – which means we miss out on diverse opinions.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I have taken jobs that I wasn’t really qualified for, had expectations of women that were unfounded and expected preferential treatment, all based on the over-confidence conferred by being a man in a patriarchal society (wow – this is like a confessional!)

How would you define masculinity?

I wouldn’t

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

It probably exists, but I don’t feel it has any particular bad effects. Any oppressed group will hate their oppressors, different people will express this different ways. It often gets tagged with a “negative” word.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

I am pretty sure that I am listened to more in meetings with a range of people than my wife, for no reason. I have consistently been paid more than women with equal qualifications.

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 787

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Systemic domination of women by men, a system designed to benefit men

How has patriarchy hurt you?

In very limited ways such as misplaced homophobia, enforcement of normative masculinity, limiting possible emotional intimacy with male friends

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Sexist jokes, casual slut-shaming

How would you define masculinity?

gendered behaviour associated with male subjects, typified by powerful/active roles in contrast with normative female gendered behaviour

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

The is no structural basis for this line of oppression

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

Misplaced homophobia (I’m not actually gay), due to lack of adherence to normative masculinity. Vast majority of gender related prejudice has been of advantage to me

What best describes you?

An ally to feminism