Respondent 966

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

a system that privileges men over women

How has patriarchy hurt you?

how hasn’t it. I’m a fat disabled queer intersex trans man.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

when I was a teenager, I tried to be a “real man” in such a way that it was bad for all my relationships – romantic, familial, friends, all of them. I tried to be “right” all the time, to be “strong” all the time, to be infallible. I expended so much energy lashing out because I had been hurt in so many ways and I didn’t know how else to deal with it but to try and control everything I could, because maybe if I could then the world would stop hurting me. Of course, it doesn’t work that way, and no one is infallible – but especially no teenager is. I was lucky – I grew out of this before I hit adulthood. but it happened.

How would you define masculinity?

a tricky question. it’s a feeling mostly, I think. but like almost every gender feeling, like colours, we will never know if it feels the same to others that it does to us. it is also a physical expression I think, hair and sharp lines, beer and exertion, gruffness and protectiveness.

Does misandry exist?

Yes

I don’t think misandry exists in a systemic way, that’s ridiculous. but my mother threatened to kill me when I told her I was a man, because “men are worthless”, so I cannot say that it does not exist on a smaller scale.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

What best describes you?

A feminist

I know some people think a man can’t be a feminist because he hasn’t lived as a woman. But I have lived as a woman, so if that is the only problem, it is cis centric and false.

Respondent 964

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

In a short survey monkey box – that roles are defined more often than not by men

How has patriarchy hurt you?

See answer to 2 – who says having a Y chromosome means we know everything.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Remaining silent would probably be the biggest one especially with respect to obvious issues like equal pay for equal wotk

How would you define masculinity?

Box is too small. 🙂 at a high level masculinity is socially imposed (being a soldier is a masculine role at least in part due to historical and body mass averages)

Does misandry exist?

Yes

People can choose any reason for disliking anyone .. Women are people so misandry can exist. whether it is widely an issue I have no idea (I don’t experience it often)

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

most of it is just women being as thoughtless and inconsiderate as they accuse men of being

What best describes you?

None of the above

Respondent 965

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

When men give each other advantages at the expense of other genders

How has patriarchy hurt you?

It’s been very good to me, as you’d expect. The only side effect is that any rebalancing of the odds feels like an injustice, or a slight to me personally. Of course it isn’t; it just FEELS like it.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

In the workplace, I have genuinely tried to support female workers, often at my own expense. But socially… I guess as a teenager I wanted to fit in with other boys. That meant girls (and boys) were hurt. Verbally, I mean.

How would you define masculinity?

I’d like to think of it as the most positive, constructive attributes of the male gender: for me that’s about protection, teamwork, leadership. They’re not exclusively male, but that’s what masculinity feel like to me. But it’s subjective.

Does misandry exist?

I don’t know what misandry is!

I’ve now looked it up. It’s probably the feeling I refer to in (3) – but really it’s equality, or a rebalancing of the genders in society.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

I’ve been passed for work on several occasions in a liberal organisation who were conscious of not having enough women in the department. I totally understand why, but I can’t ignore the reason. If anything, I need to own it.

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 962

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Overblown

How has patriarchy hurt you?

It doesn’t. Isn’t that the point?

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Without knowing it.

How would you define masculinity?

As a burden.

Does misandry exist?

I don’t know what misandry is!

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

Sadly, I have definitely been bullied in a female led workplace.

What best describes you?

An equalist

Respondent 963

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

I would define patriarchy as the male power dynamic, including dominance between males and dominance over women. (Similarly, matriarchy would be the female power dynamic, over each other and men.)

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Mainly the annoyance of being told to conform to male roles.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I don’t believe so.

How would you define masculinity?

It’s a big set of traditions associated with being male,

Does misandry exist?

I don’t know what misandry is!

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

What best describes you?

An ally to feminism

Respondent 957

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

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How has patriarchy hurt you?

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How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

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How would you define masculinity?

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Does misandry exist?

Yes

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

What best describes you?

An equalist

Respondent 959

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Ideological, culturally hegemonic male dominance.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Difficult to answer. In the most literal sense, my father was physically and emotionally abusive. My feminist mother eventually succumbed to alcoholism. My girlfriend doesn’t believe in herself.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Undoubtedly. Although to specify would be reductive.

How would you define masculinity?

To answer idealistically – positive expressions of male Identity. Strength in the service of compassion.

Does misandry exist?

Yes

The answer is in the question

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

when your appearance / behaviour does not conform to peoples’ expectations, they often use it as a stick to beat you with. Women as a much agents of patriarchy as men, unfortunately.

What best describes you?

None of the above

I’m practically a feminist, but openly supporting a seemingly antagonistic cause damages it and my own efforts improve gender equality. Note that I do not agree that equal means the same. We do not want to erase the differences that make life so rich. See debates about race and culture for context.

Respondent 955

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A social system where men hold the significant majority of social, political, economical power and this is seen normal.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

The patriarchy assumes ideas about gender roles that are very binary and then idealises those who conform to these ideas. This has created social expectations of me that do not resonate with me – e.g. competitiveness, hetronormativity, dominance.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

During job recruitment processes, I rate women who have been away from work for long periods of time lower (due to their lack of experience) but this is a result of the patriarchy expecting women take time off to raise children.

How would you define masculinity?

The attributes associated with ‘manliness’. Masculinity includes ideas such as ‘men as the primary earner’, ‘men need to compete/be dominating’, ‘men are assertive and good leaders’.

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

Misandry might exist, but not in any Western culture

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

Both for being too masculine and not masculine enough

What best describes you?

None of the above

A random guy

Respondent 950

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Not even blindness. Utterly ingrained, utterly invisible. It’s there in the same way gravity is.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Inequality

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Tried not to

How would you define masculinity?

XY

Does misandry exist?

Yes

And it’s about as prevalent as people who hate penguins.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

Insane recruitment decisions

What best describes you?

A feminist

Now becoming aware.

Respondent 949

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Mafia style man-tribe in charge for ages.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Half the world are overconfident and the other half is insecure.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I’ve definitely accused people of throwing like a girl.

How would you define masculinity?

A disinterest in cupcakes?

Does misandry exist?

Yes

It’s irrelevant compared to the crimes of patriarchy.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

Women-only sessions at the pool. Bastards! And the lifestyle articles getting in the way of my broadsheet news consumption.

What best describes you?

A feminist