Respondent 814

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Paradigm we live inas it relates to male/female roles

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Societal pressure to be the (successful) breadwinner not childcarer gets me down. Reinforced by policies on this.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Being wary of being identified as a friend of gay guys at school and therefore being unfriendly.

How would you define masculinity?

At it’s best protective. At it’s worst arrogant. Honestly I think men’s mind work differently to women’s in various ways. I do think we’re naturally less empathetic and more simplistic (in good ways and bad)

Does misandry exist?

Yes

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Maybe

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 816

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

An institutional, societal, cultural and economic bias toward men, and perceived masculine traits and ideals.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Patriarchy has hurt me whenever I acted in such a way, that didn’t conform to “masculine ideals.” Being bullied and excluded at school because I didn’t play football and had quite a few female friends. They called me ‘gay’ as if it were an insult, (which I suppose to them, it was) even though I wasn’t in fact, gay. Though, if were to explain to them that I was asexual, they probably wouldn’t even accept that it exists. Many still don’t, because y’know, men are always looking for their next fuck, right? These days, I’m glad that I can wear those tall, women’s boots and watch My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic, and have only to contend with the occasional raised eyebrow.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Sometimes, I did. When the same people who bullied me rounded on someone else, I would sometimes join in. As low down on the social hierarchy as I was, at least there was someone “girlier”, “gayer”, “weaker” than I was.

How would you define masculinity?

I wouldn’t define it at all. Those ideals and traits that we have segregated by gender; strength, courage, power for boys and grace, tact, compassion for girls, exist in both, in equal measure. They aren’t instilled in some and not others, and they can’t be turned on like a breaker switch. The best any of us can hope for, is that we can summon up a little of them when the time calls for it.

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Maybe

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 798

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

the top is for men only

How has patriarchy hurt you?

rich men are always pissing down on the poor

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

not knowingly

How would you define masculinity?

as something that archetypally man are better at than archetypal woman

Does misandry exist?

I don’t know what misandry is!

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Maybe

What best describes you?

An egalitarian

Respondent 794

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A system of ideology and power relations that enshrines male identification, male centredness, male domination, and venerates control and domination over others.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

It has made me almost entirely unable to express emotion in what I would consider a healthy way (“real men don’t cry” etc).

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I have treated women I have been in relationships with fairly appallingly in the past, because of feelings of entitlement that I think patriarchy imbues all men with. Eg asking for sexual favours they might not have been comfortable with, generally being manipulative.

How would you define masculinity?

The ideal of behaviour that patriarchy says men must meet, which basically involves always being “strong” and in control of oneself and others, never showing emotion except for anger, valuing violence and domination as a way of solving problems, and denigrating anything deemed to be feminine.

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

I have always felt more misandry from men than women. For example, men who hold that “boys will be boys” and deny that men can be responsible for themselves, whereas feminists in particular seem to view men as being capable of being better than patriarchy says they can be.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Maybe

There are plenty of prejudices surrounding (straight, white, cisgender) men, but I don’t think these amount to the oppression that people outside that description face.

What best describes you?

An ally to feminism

Respondent 782

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

The culture we live in of men assuming/taking control

How has patriarchy hurt you?

I’m a man, part of a very fucked up system by default, influenced and then perpetuated.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Yes, sexist behaviour and comments. Feeling and acting entitled without any real basis.

How would you define masculinity?

a scam, being good and useful is what matters.

Does misandry exist?

No

things are still stacked in favour of men, fighting for equality is not misandry.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Maybe

What best describes you?

So much left to learn

Respondent 777

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Society has been dominated by Rich men from wealthy families for ever, and still is. I believe it to be as much of a class problem as a gender one.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

I believe that it has affected everyone, although I recognise that it will affect me less than my female counterparts.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Noone personally. I think it is less of a deal with my generation. I listen to rap, which often causes some cognitive dissonance with the issue.

How would you define masculinity?

I wouldn’t even know how to answer that, which is the problem. For generations, men have known exactly their role within the family and society. These lines are now not clear cut, which is why there is confusion, and perhaps men feeling alienated from society. The remnants of the old “be a man” and “man up” attitude coupled with this are perhaps are a cause for the massively high proportion of male suicides and undiagnosed mental illness.

Does misandry exist?

Yes

prejudice does exists in many forms, this being one of them. I think many men feel that it is more rife than it actually is. especially the sort of twats who uses words like “femi-nazi”

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Maybe

if i have, I have not noticed either way.

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 772

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Men having advantages over women based purely on the fact that they are men.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Some people have assumed I’m part of it because I am male.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Can’t think of anything.

How would you define masculinity?

Being a decent human being who happens to be male.

Does misandry exist?

I don’t know what misandry is!

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Maybe

What best describes you?

An egalitarian

Respondent 768

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

An established or ad hoc formal or informal system of control where a man or men have the majority or defining word on what happens.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

It binds us as a society and inhibits creativity and freedom.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I haven’t hurt people.

How would you define masculinity?

Being male

Does misandry exist?

I don’t know what misandry is!

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Maybe

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 758

Does patriarchy exist?

No

How would you define patriarchy?

From the Ancient Greek: men ruling. This is very different to “The Patriarchy”, in much the same way that “Jews” differ from “The Jews”. Sometimes, in some areas, men rule. In other times, other places, other scenarios, women rule. These small sections of society could conceivably be called patriarchies and matriarchies. But this idea of “The Patriarchy” is, at best, outdated, and at worst, a hurtful lie. For a start, men are so often hurt by society. This is often claimed by Feminists as “The Patriarchy hurting men, too”, which is almost inevitably an excuse to try and tell those who campaign for men’s issues to shut up and let the Feminists deal with it (not that they ever do). But let’s look at an example: “take back the night”. This, and its more popular, more mainstream cousin, “end violence against women”, are classic misdirection. A cursory glance at our country’s crime statistics reveals that the primary victims of just about any type of crime – apart from rape, which is defined here as something done with the penis, are men. And yet, we don’t have campaigns about how men need to take back the streets. There are no mainstream campaigns to end violence against men. Men don’t relate how they’re afraid to go out at night, because they’re not – even though they’re the sex more likely to be robbed, assaulted or murdered! And why is this? Why is it that women, the sex with less to fear, are the sex with the most fear? Clearly, because the Patriarchy has told them to be fearful to keep them indoors. Except it’s not the Patriarchy saying that, is it? It’s the Feminists. They’re the ones launching these rallies, voicing these campaigns, making films about the horrors of street harassment (hey, men, who cares if you got your guts slit open for �15 – a builder once whistled at me!). It’s the Feminists putting this fear in women. But why on Earth would they want to do that? I don’t know. But I’d like to know Polly Neate’s salary. Speaking of salaries, it’s often spouted that women earn 77% (or thereabouts) of a man’s wage. It’s hardly ever mentioned that amongst young professionals, women out-earn men. Amongst young working-class people, men still out-earn women, but then, they are also about ten times more likely to be killed at work. Much is made of the question “can women have it all?” – the implication being that men already do and you’re a hateful bigot if you say women can’t. Here’s an idea for your act – ask everyone in the audience to put up their hand if they wished their Dad had spent more time with them as a child instead of having to work. The cat’s in the cradle with the silver spoon… Most of the statistics (including the ridiculous ones about rape, which do things like ignore whether the people they asked actually thought they were raped, or pull figures for “unreported rapes” literally out of nowhere) are made up of lies, deliberate mis-interpretation, and citing of works of feminist theory that cite other works of feminist theory that cite &c. &c. You can find information on all these things with a little research on the internet, as long as you don’t screech and close off the site the minute you read the words “MRA”.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Patriarchy does not exist.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Patriarchy does not exist.

How would you define masculinity?

Well this is a tough’n to answer at gone 5am. Stubborn-ness. Decisiveness. Aloofness. Rationality. Aggression. Strength. Jealousy. Protectiveness. Savagery. Violence. Culture. Beauty. It is anti-femininity, in the Greek sense: it is its complement, the yang to its yin. This is realised in cultures across Creation. I know one thing for sure, though: it ain’t a toxin.

Does misandry exist?

Yes

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Maybe

Nowadays, it’s sexist to say women and men are different. Apart from when it’s sexist to say they’re not.

What best describes you?

None of the above

I’m getting pig-sick of all this identity politics.

Respondent 748

Does patriarchy exist?

No

How would you define patriarchy?

Men rulling women in society.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

never existed to me. My family comes from a middle-eastern village.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Well, one day in college I was talking to a guy or women, not sure and one day I asked why does he care so much of being different? what are all silly cloth? Why can’t you be a normal men. Some how he was a mad and talked loudly about patriarchy and social construct stuff.

How would you define masculinity?

My father used to tell me that each time you were getting on top of the mountain you felt free and wasn’t scared of anything beside god. Even tough you felt free you still had resposibility. like going back home. The feeling you had on top of this mountain was equivalent of being a men and only a man can have this exact feeling to its limit. I remember to have asked my father: “what does feminity feels like?” He simply told me: “it’s the same thing, but just add a kid in the arm of the person on top of the mountain. The feeling a person can feel is only fully achivable by a woman. And you have to protect her and her special she gets daily with your kid. Otherwise I wouldn’t be able to tell youn this.” I never really asked anything else on the subject.It was enough for me.

Does misandry exist?

I don’t know what misandry is!

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Maybe

he also told me that I say that because i’m heterosexual. I guess that’s not an argument and an insult based upon what I am.

What best describes you?

None of the above

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