Respondent 920

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Patriarchy is a social system in which: males hold primary power; males predominate in roles of political leadership, moral authority, social privilege and control of property; and, in the domain of the family, fathers or father-figures hold authority over women and children

How has patriarchy hurt you?

People don’t listen to the smartest people in a room, they often listen to those that are loud, confident and dynamic.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Given opportunities before others based on gender and stereotypes.

How would you define masculinity?

Comfort within yourself.

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

I had to Google misandry

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

I’m in the armed forces,a highly male heavy vocation.

What best describes you?

Nice guy

Respondent 906

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Organised male control of society to the exclusion of women

How has patriarchy hurt you?

it hasn’t. I’m a man

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Accidentally

How would you define masculinity?

man-ness

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

Men often deserve to be hated

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

the guilt! the guilt!

What best describes you?

An ally to feminism

Respondent 903

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

An unconcious (most of the time) system of men preferring men.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Through my wife. I hate the idea that she will be looking for jobs as a recently married woman, and people will be thinking of her in maternity leave. Also how she’s been treated in various jobs has been horrendous.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I don’t know, but I probably have.

How would you define masculinity?

Usually, dickheads. But I’d like to define it as ‘obsolete traits that used to define what it was to be a man, but we’ve all moved on now, so that’s cool.’

Does misandry exist?

Yes

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 899

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

The social structure that favours men in almost every aspect of life.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

I have been indoctrinated to adhere to my imposed gender role, to the extent where I gave up hobbies or other things I enjoyed as it wasn’t “manly enough”.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I am certain I have been given opportunities that women have not.

How would you define masculinity?

2 defenitions might apply, Biological, and sociological. Biological masculinity is quite simply, having testicles a penis, and production testosterone as the main sex hormone. Sociological masculinity is the perception of adhering to a strict set of gender guidelines that generally promotes aggressive or competitive behaviors.

Does misandry exist?

Yes

But not nearly as prominent as chauvinism

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

A feminist

Gender equality for both genders is still feminism.

Respondent 894

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Society stacking the odds in men’s favour.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Narrowed my options. It also creates an environment where the expectation of being a breadwinner is huge; even with a wife who doesn’t want that from me I find myself trying to live to that ideal.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I try to avoid it but it’s insidious. We are trained to have certain expectations of genders; those manifest in bitchy remarks and ideas about the appropriateness of some roles for people.

How would you define masculinity?

A good man is physically and emotionally strong, compassionate to the people around him and comfortably leads the people around him to better things.

Does misandry exist?

No

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

A feminist

A very flawed feminist

Respondent 889

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Patriarchy describes how in our culture, men receive many–sometimes overt and sometimes subtle–advantages. It covers everything from how men have to worry less about how they present themselves publically (dress, behavior, etc), to how women have to worry about “unsafe” (i.e., rapey) social situations way more than men. Even little shit, like how men are acculturated to ask for things or even demand them, whereas women are acculturated to say yes to everything. Oh, also, women are so underrepresented in media of all kinds, that a man can only consume other art made by other men literally without even trying–many men have to go out of their way to consume art made by women–whereas if you only read books by women, not only would it be hard to do, but people on the internet would call you a white knight or a psycho bitch and send you death threats.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Not a lot! It’s been pretty good to me, honestly. I’ve had some situations where I probably bulldozed around and made people feel shitty without meaning to, and I felt bad about it afterwards, but that’s about it.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Nothing completely heinous, thank god. I’ve probably voiced some stupid ideas about cat calling or whatever that annoyed the hell out of women in the room, but later I amended those opinions. Nothing really stupid about how women should take a compliment and lighten up or whatever, just not realizing the gravity of the situation. I had at least one relationship disintegrate because my partner was terrible at saying no–not regarding sex so much as regarding anything–and I just turned into an obtuse slob without even realizing it. Get an inch take a mile kind of thing.

How would you define masculinity?

It’s a construction; it’s a performance. It’s a performance I like, by the way. I like to act masculine, a lot of parts of it feel “natural” or comfortable to me, but it’s all aesthetic. I don’t think it’s a standard other men should be required to uphold.

Does misandry exist?

No

I’m sure there are women who hate men, but beyond one time where a woman came up and yelled at me at a bar for no reason, I really don’t see the social or political consequences of this.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

I don’t like the rhetoric of people being allies, because a lot of the time it turns into pissing contests on the internet over who is a good ally and who is a false ally and I find that creepy. I also find the “anybody who supports women is a feminist” line to be kind of imprecise in a way that bugs me, because feminism is such a big thing and there are definitely versions of it that I don’t identify with. But if this were just a conversation and I knew nobody wanted to hear some stupid semantic blah because we were actually talking about a specific, important thing? I would call myself a feminist or ally without losing sleep, yeah.

Respondent 884

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

The economic, social and cultural system that praises the masculine and dismisses or mocks the feminine.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

I am unable to show emotion the way I would like to for fear of being seen as weak or unmanly. I don’t think I would be taken seriously were I ever raped or assaulted.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I don’t know if I have. Calling girls sluts maybe?

How would you define masculinity?

Strong, powerful, steady.

Does misandry exist?

Maybe

If it does it’s nit common.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 883

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A ruling class oblivious between the distinction of privelege and right as much as it is oblivious to the distinction between sex and gender identification.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

it hasn’t. Being that I can privilege from its existence it has done nothing to me save for a few inconveniences that those in my position less aware of their privilege may define as “hurt.”

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I have underestimated those who would identify as women in the past. I’ve come a long way but there’s always room for improvement.

How would you define masculinity?

Definitions change so I would say masculinity is a reaction to how our baser instincts define power as it exists in today’s society.

Does misandry exist?

Yes

Misandry exists as an extreme response to a patriarchal power

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

While I’ve experienced prejudice based on my gender/sex I’ve never had to fear for my life or position in society so I can’t really say it’s done nothing but given me advantages.

What best describes you?

An ally to feminism

Respondent 875

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Men looking after the interests of men, to the detriment of others.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

It hasn’t.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I’m sure I must have. But I’m also largely oblivious to it because it permeates so deeply into what is considered normal.

How would you define masculinity?

I don’t know how to.

Does misandry exist?

Yes

I think it does exist, but largely with good reason. Men have pretty much fucked up running the world. I get annoyed with men and stereotypically male behaviour a lot of the time.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

A feminist

Respondent 868

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A system of society or government in which the father or eldest male is head of the family and descent is traced through the male line. Also – them sort of weird hidden rules and expectations that mean that women don’t quite get the same opportunities as us.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

My sister doesn’t do as well as I do through no fault of her own. This means doesnt make enough money and therefore couldn’t buy a house when they were cheap, which meant that my parents stepped into help her and I am crippled with a larger mortgage than if I’d been similarly stuck.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I’ve got jobs where i clearly wasnt the best just becuase I am white and male.

How would you define masculinity?

Possession of the qualities traditionally associated with men

Does misandry exist?

Yes

Radical feminists can be quite extreme in online debates, and I’ve accidentally been on the receiveing end of their accusations in teh past.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

A feminist