Man Links #8: articles exploring issues around #ManSurvey

On Wednesdays I’m sharing articles and other links that I’ve come across over the last week, which touch on issues that crossover with the #ManSurvey.

(If these aren’t enough links for for you here are the previous posts #1#2#3#4#5, #6 and #7. And of course there is also the Further Reading List for the show.)

Please be aware of a general content note: some of these links touch on sexual assault, rape, violence and other aspects of patriarchy:

That viral kidnapping video is about controlling women’s sexuality, not safety by Abi Wilkinson on Gadgette

Toxic Masculinity Is Harmful To All Of Us by James Tennent on Buzzfeed

Nerd Guys, Pandering, and “Forced” Diversity by Joseph Cain on The Mary Sue

So Cameron was young and reckless. Lucky he wasn’t young, reckless and poor by Gary Younge in The Guardian

Also here is a trailer for Peter Aguero‘s storytelling show Daddy Issues which is currently happening in the USA and is very relevant to #ManSurvey!

Guest blog posts and analysis of the survey are still very welcome. And please do get in touch if you use the #ManSurvey as research, as reference, as teaching material or in any other way,  I am really happy to signal boost and link to what you are doing.

 

 

Man Links #7: articles exploring issues around #ManSurvey

On Wednesdays I’m sharing articles and other links that I’ve come across over the last week, which touch on issues that crossover with the #ManSurvey.

(If these aren’t enough links for for you here are the previous posts #1#2#3#4#5 and #6. And of course there is also the Further Reading List for the show.)

Please be aware of a general content note: some of these links touch on sexual assault, rape, violence and other aspects of patriarchy:

Why sex workers should be part of ‘lad culture’ campaigns by Alison Phipps on her blog

I’m Sarah Nyberg, and I Was A Teenage Edgelord. by Sarah Nyberg on Medium

Everybody in dresses: Why does gender neutral clothing always mean ‘boy’ clothes for girls? by Audra Williams for National Post

Jeremy Corbyn and women: a matter of policy not appointment by Dawn Foster on Open Democracy

Making a Dent in the narrative by Ally Fogg on Freethought blogs

Comedy & The War On Free Speech by Ijeoma Oluo on Medium

And finally this is an example of someone writing about men in a way that caused me to write this rant/response on facebook. HT to Anna Sulan Masing for bringing it to my attention. I do not endorse it’s content, style or conclusions in any way but it says a lot about masculinity:  How Sad Young Douchebags Took Over Modern Britain by Clive Martin for Vice

And this week’s episode of my Getting Better Acquainted podcast with guest James covers a lot of stuff about the #ManSurvey. I also talk about performing the show at Edinburgh in this week’s episode of the Stand Up Tragedy podcast.

Guest blog posts and analysis of the survey are still very welcome. And please do get in touch if you use the #ManSurvey as research, as reference, as teaching material or in any other way,  I am really happy to signal boost and link to what you are doing.

 

Man Links #6: articles exploring issues around #ManSurvey

On Wednesdays I’m sharing articles and other links that I’ve come across over the last week, which touch on issues that crossover with the #ManSurvey.  I’ve finished doing the show daily at the Edinburgh Fringe now and so will go back to posting these round-ups regularly.

(If these aren’t enough links for for you here are the previous posts #1#2#3#4 and #5. And of course there is also the Further Reading List for the show.)

Please be aware of a general content note: some of these links touch on sexual assault, rape, violence and other aspects of patriarchy:

Masculinity Is Killing Men: The Roots of Men and Trauma by Kali Holloway on Alternet

Austerity is a feminist issue – women will be hit twice as hard as men by cuts by Frances Ryan in the New Statesman

Sexual offending in schools: Looking beyond the Dramatic Big Number by Ally Fogg on Freethought blogs

The myth of the “bad” prisoner: Why we’re thinking about US prison reform all wrong by Noah Berlatsky on Quartz

This link is less an article recommendation and more a link to an example of fragile masculinity: UK’s XFM Becomes ‘Male-Focused’ Radio X, Adds Chris Moyles To Line-Up by Music Business Worldwide

Also I took part in this hashtag discussion of masculinity organised by Arts Admin.

And this week’s episode of my Getting Better Acquainted podcast with guest Mathilda Gregory covers a lot of stuff about the #ManSurvey show and many of the themes from the surveys.

 

Guest blog posts and analysis of the survey are still very welcome. And please do get in touch if you use the #ManSurvey as research, as reference, as teaching material or in any other way,  I am really happy to signal boost and link to what you are doing.

 

Man Links #5: articles exploring issues around #ManSurvey

On Wednesdays I’m sharing articles and other links that I’ve come across over the last week, which touch on issues that crossover with the #ManSurvey.  But because I’m currently doing the show everyday (apart from Mondays) at the Edinburgh Fringe my days have got a bit skewed lately.

If these aren’t enough links for for you here are the previous posts #1#2#3 and #4. And of course there is also the Further Reading List for the show.

Please be aware of a general content note: some of these links touch on sexual assault, rape, violence and other aspects of patriarchy:

The Meme-ification of Misandry by Charlotte Shane on Medium

“Manvertisements” and Toxic Masculinity by Bailey Poland on suite

Kevin Bacon talking about #FreeTheBacon

It’s weird how people correct me when they think I’m a woman by Jef Rouner in Houston Press

A Master’s Degree in … Masculinity? by Jessica Bennett in the NY Times

 

Guest blog posts and analysis of the survey are still very welcome. And please do get in touch if you use the #ManSurvey as research, as reference, as teaching material or in any other way,  I am really happy to signal boost and link to what you are doing.

 

What About These Shows #2

I am taking What About the Men? Mansplaining Masculinity up to the Edinburgh Fringe. The first #Edfringe performance will be at 12.05 on Saturday 8th August

I’ve already done a blog recommending shows that contain similar flavours to mine; shows about gender and or identity that are being put together by amazing performers. A big part of my show touches on sex, sexuality and sex education and so I thought I’d also put together a list of recommendations for shows that focus on these areas. Both lists are covered in audio form in this “extra” edition of my Getting Better Acquainted podcast.

As with the last list of recommendations I want to say that there are loads of shows that I’d recommend but that I’m not listing here. I’m limiting it to ones that share things about their style, tone and content with my show. A full list of my recommendations would be really really long!

If you know of shows going to the Edinburgh Fringe 2015 that are excellent and are about sex, sexuality and sex education then please list them in the comments. I’ve only seen one of these four shows but I rate all the performers really highly and have loved their work in the past.


0   Rosie Wilby: The Science of Sex

BBC Radio 4 regular revamps award-winning investigation into the science of attraction, which she was invited to perform in New York in 2013, incorporating some new ideas and highlights from her more recent piece Is Monogamy Dead. What makes us gay or straight? What are pheromones? What is the scientific origin of kissing?

When/where/how: 17.00 at Sneaky Pete’s  8th-15th August PBH Free Fringe

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Brydie Lee-Kennedy Loves You Two

In one week, Brydie fell in love twice. Both of them stuck. A show about lust, alternative sexual lifestyles, the awfulness of terms like ‘alternative sexual lifestyles’ and ill-timed nosebleeds (is there any other kind?).

When/where/how: 16:15 at Just the Tonic at the Caves (Salvation Rooms) 6th-31st August Tickets here

0000Chella Quint: Adventures in Menstruating

What is that blue stuff… and why isn’t it red? Will all the menstruators performing at the Fringe really synchronise cycles? Really? And how can century-old ads still affect attitudes now? For everything you never knew you needed to know about periods, there’s comedian and sex educator Chella Quint. As heard on Radio 4 Woman’s Hour, she deconstructs taboos with wit, adbusting and brute force. Period comedy for menstruators and non-menstruators of all genders.

When/where/how:  19.30 at The Stafford Centre  at 8th – 28th August PBH Free Fringe

Miranda Kane: The Coin-Operated Girl – A Sex Worker’s Real Life Revelations of Frivolous Fornications
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From the star of Audible.com’s Slaving Away, Miranda Kane exposes the truth about sex workers, their clients, and all the hilarious, heart-warming and often bizarre moments in her unique career. This five-star show is an eye-opening look at a fascinating industry. With hilarious anecdotes and a no holes barred Q&A, Coin-Operated Girl offers a whole new angle on the world of sex work. Even if it’s not your first time with a prostitute, it’ll be the funniest!

When/where/how: 16.05 at Liquid Room Annexe 8th-30th August PBH Free Fringe


Man Links #4: articles exploring issues around #ManSurvey

On Wednesdays I’m sharing articles and other links that I’ve come across over the last week, which touch on issues that crossover with the #ManSurvey.  If this isn’t enough for you here are the previous posts #1#2  and #3. Last week I didn’t post the links because I was too busy compiling the Further Reading List for the show. So this week I’m posting two weeks of links.

To get an idea of what’s going on with the show check out this press release. I also talked about both it and the #ManSurvey quite a lot on this week’s episode of my Getting Better Acquainted podcast. I also answered some questions about the show for this blog. I previewed the show last Thursday and you can hear the first 8 mins on this week’s episode of the Stand Up Tragedy podcast. And the guest blog I wrote for Girl on the Net about the #ManSurvey was shared in this week’s F Word round up.

Please be aware of a general content note: some of these links touch on sexual assault, rape, violence and other aspects of patriarchy, sometimes in detail:

Improving on Silence by Teju Cole for The New Inquiry

Getting Better Acquainted: GBA 218 Shaun Attwood

I’m in a wheelchair, I’m queer and I’m still a real man by Andrew Morrison-Gurza for Mashable

WTF with Marc Maron: Episode 622 – Wyatt Cenac

Empathy Is Actually a Choice by Daryl Cameron, Michael Inzlicht and William A. Cunningham for The New York Times

I spent Three Years at Cambridge University and It Made Me an Arrogant, Entitled Brat by Joe Goodman for the Huffington Post

Why everything you think you know about gangs is wrong by Temi Mwale from Get Out of the Gang for The Guardian.

This Ruling Could Change Online “Free Speech” Forever by Tauriq Moosa for The Daily Beast.

And an old one I was reminded of again this week:

The Second Sexism: don’t judge a book by its press by Ally Fogg for The New Statesman

Guest blog posts and analysis of the survey are still very welcome. And please do get in touch if you use the #ManSurvey as research, as reference, as teaching material or in any other way,  I am really happy to signal boost and link to what you are doing.

What About These Shows?

I am taking What About the Men? Mansplaining Masculinity up to the Edinburgh Fringe. I did a preview of it the other night and the audience reacted well to it.

I thought I’d recommend some other shows happening this year in Edinburgh that contain similar flavours; shows about gender and or identity that are being put together by amazing performers. There loads of shows that I’d recommend but that  I’m not listing here. I’m limiting it to ones that share things about their style, tone and content with my show.

If you know of shows going to the Edinburgh Fringe 2015 that are in a similar wheel house to my show please suggest them in the comments section.


First of all these are some shows I have seen and so know are really good:

 0Mathilda GregoryHow To Be Fat

How to be Fat is an hour long solo comedy theatre show about having a fat body.

I saw this show because I previewed with it last week. It is a funny, moving, personal and thought provoking exploration of how it feels to be fat and how society frames fatness. It has stayed in my mind since I saw it.

When/where/how: 18.55 at Zoo Southside 7th-31st August Tickets here00

 

Cameryn Moore: Phone Whore (A One Act Play With Frequent Interruptions)

Truth and taboo collide in this intimate visit with a phone sex operator.

I saw this last year and it was one of the best things I saw. It’s a powerful and funny piece of drama exploring both the mundane reality of phone sex work and the complicated reality of sex and sexuality. I think it really speaks to many of the themes of my show and the responses that came out in the survey. It’s a really beautiful and human piece of work.

When/where/how: 19:05 at Sweet Grassmarket 6th-30th August Tickets here

000Jack Rooke: Good Grief

On the same day as his Dad’s funeral, the town Jack Rooke lived in was voted ‘The Happiest Place To Live In Britain’. He was 15, in the middle of his GCSE’s and after ruling out becoming an X-Factor sob story, Jack decided to use his grief to get whatever he wanted out of people and life. 

This is a wonderfully warm show about bereavement. I saw an early version of it and loved it.

When/where/how:  Delhi Belly @ Underbelly 16.00 at 6th – 30th August Tickets here

 

Hannah Chutzpah: Asking Nicely0000

One-woman poetry show about the power dynamics of permission and politeness – with rhymes and reasons. A lyrical feminist pep-talk with pop psychology and audience participation swearing.

I saw this last year and really liked it. It has similar things to say about power dynamics and bullying to my show.

When/where/how: 18.45 at the Pilgrim 8th-29th August PBH Free Fringe

 


These are shows which I haven’t seen but expect will be amazing knowing the caliber of the people making them and having seen elements of them before:

000000AJ McKenna: Howl of the Bantee

After a lifetime of being told to laugh off misogyny and rape jokes, AJ McKenna has had enough of ‘banter’. Now, in her PBH Free Fringe debut, she’s ready to howl back.

When/where/how:  18.15 at The Stafford Centre 16th-22nd August PBH Free Fringe

 

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Paula Varjack: How I became my self (by becoming someone else)

A show about changing your name, finding freedom through reinvention, and gaining the power to tell your own story. Combining confessional monologue with video interview and archive footage, it explores identity through name change.

When/where/how: 12:30 at Cowgatehead UpTwo 8th – 30th August  PBH Free Fringe

00000Cameryn Moore: Slut (R)evolution

How did it feel? What the hell was she thinking? And how will it affect tonight’s hook-up? Memoir and manifesto come together in this incendiary exploration of sex, relationships, and salad crispers.

When/where/how: 21:35 at Sweet Grassmarket  6th-30th August Tickets here

 

 


 

And these are shows which have been recommended to me by people whose taste I trust who thought they chimed in some way with the show:

Desiree Burch: Tar Baby: 12.00 at Gilded Balloon 5th-31st August

Gabriel Ebulue: Armchair Anarchist: 15.45 at Cowgatehead 7th-31st August

Boxed In: 14.15 at Pleasance Courtyard 6th-31st August

Further Reading List for What About the Men? Mansplaining Masculinity

WATM_poster-2015I am previewing What About the Men? Mansplaining Masculinity tomorrow night at the Dogstar in Brixton, London. So instead of a round up of this weeks #ManSurvey related links I am sharing the further reading list that I’ll be giving out at the end of the show.

Books:

The Will to Change: Men Masculinity and Love by bell hooks

Redefining Realness by Janet Mock

Articles:

The patriarchy is dead … but the kyriarchy lives on, Nichi Hodgson, Guardian, 10th September 2010

On Nerd Entitlement,  Laurie Penny, New Statesman, 29th December, 2014

Why My Son Needs Feminism by Jendella Benson, Media Diversified, 24th June, 2015

The Meme-ification of Misandry, Charlotte Shane, Medium, August 5th 2015

[EDIT: The above is not included in the version of the further reading list that I currently give out at performances of the show because it came out after they were printed.]

Seven Studies That Prove Mansplaining Exists, Lucy Vernasco, Bitch Magazine, July 14th 2014

Not All Men: A Brief History of Every Dude’s Favorite Argument, Jess Zimmerman, Time Magazine, April 28th 2014

Prattle of the sexes: Do women talk more than men?, Claudia Hammond, BBC Future, 12th November 2013

When Men Experience Sexism, Noah Berlatsky, The Atlantic, May 29th 2013

Your Princess is in Another Castle: Misogyny, Entitlement, and Nerds, Arthur Chu, The Daily Beast, 27th May 2014

Breaking the wall of secrecy on the sexual abuse of men by women, Ally Fogg, Guardian, 9th June 2014

Depression and the fragility of the strong, silent male, Yvonne Roberts, Guardian, 8th February 2015

Women Speak Drastically Less When They’re Surrounded by Dudes. And That’s Bad, Lindy West,  Jezebel, 19th September 2012

How Men’s Rights Leader Paul Elam Turned Being A Deadbeat Dad Into A Moneymaking Movement, Adam Serwer, Katie J.M. Baker, BuzzFeed, February 6th 2015

Justice Rising: moving intersectionally in the age of post-everything, Kimberlé Crenshaw, LSE Lecture, 26th March 2014

Kimberlé Crenshaw on intersectionality: “I wanted to come up with an everyday metaphor that anyone could use”Kimberlé Crenshaw interviewed by Bim Adewunmi, New Statesman, 2nd April 2014

Sex redefinedClaire Ainsworth, Nature, 18 February 2015

Sex isn’t chromosomes: the story of a century of misconceptions about X & Y, Ian Steadman, New Statesman,  23rd February 2015

No, The Existence of Trans People Doesn’t Validate Gender EssentialismKaylee Jakubowski, Everyday Feminism March, 9th 2015

The History And Abuse of The Fedora, Robert Rath, Escapist Magazine, 6th March 2014

The Fedora Isn’t the Problem – The Men Wearing Them Are, Noor Al-Sibsai, Feminspire, May 31st 2013

 

Man Links #3: articles exploring issues around #ManSurvey

On Wednesday’s I’m sharing articles and other links which touch on issues that crossover with the #ManSurvey that I’ve come across over the last week. If this isn’t enough for you here are the previous posts #1 and #2 and here is some of the writing that inspired me to make this website/show in the first place.

To get an idea of what’s going on with the show check out this press release.

And now to this week’s links. Before listing them please be aware of a general content note: most of these links touch on sexual assault, rape, violence and other aspects of patriarchy, sometimes in detail:

Everything Is Awful and I’m Not Okay: questions to ask before giving up  by @eponis (Although this isn’t really to do with gender the show and the survey often touch on mental health and suicide. I have found this list really helpful.)

No, we don’t want to try ‘offline dating’. The internet is fine. Now leave us the f*** alone by Marie Le Conte published by The Metro

The letters continue: Erasure, misrepresentation and Orwellian doublespeak by Ally Fogg published on Freethought Blogs

Why we need a women’s revolution in Somalia by Yasmin Maydhane published by Media Diversified

These 10 ‘Acceptable’ Trans Narratives Are Actually Holding Us Back by Brynn Tannehill published by Everyday Feminism

Meet The Trans Scholar Fighting Against The Campaign For Out Trans Military Service by Chris Geidner/Dean Spade published by Buzzfeed News

Bill Cosby Reminds Us We Must Still Fight Sexism as Much as We Fight Racism by Darnell L. Moore published by Mic.com

The Charleston Imperative: Why Feminism and Antiracism Must Be Linked by Kimberle Crenshaw published by the Huffington Post

Can We Just, Like, Get Over the Way Women Talk? by Ann Friedman published by The Cut

And here’s a link I missed last week: The Media Must Stop Turning a Blind Eye to Male Abusers by Brydie Lee-Kennedy published by Vagenda Magazine

I’ll be writing a post recommending shows which you can see at the Edinburgh Fringe that have the same kind of feel, or touch on the same subjects as my show later this month but since Brydie Lee-Kennedy was the author of the last link, and since I think her show is awesome but it’s not really in the same wheelhouse as mine, this seems a good place to recommend it: Brydie Lee-Kennedy Loves You Two 6-30th August 16.15 at  Just the Tonic at the Caves (Salvation Rooms) (Venue 88a) ​She is a very funny comedian who also happens to be a brilliant storyteller.

Also the conversation I had with @ProResting on this week’s episode of my podcast Getting Better Acquainted is pretty relevant to both the show and the survey.

Guest blog posts and analysis of the survey are still very welcome. And please do get in touch if you use the #ManSurvey as research, as reference, as teaching material or in any other way,  I am really happy to signal boost and link to what you are doing.