About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
I feel that “kyriarchy” is a more useful phrase for describing the same structure: the interlocking network of oppressions, social power, stereotypes, social roles, and other things designed to keep each one of us in our place.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
The “success object” role that men are pushed into has never been a good fit on me, and that’s caused a lot of pain over the years.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
When I was a kid, I invited all the boys in my class to my birthday party, except the two boys rumored to be gay. I still cringe with shame every time I think of it.
How would you define masculinity?
The performance of a role traditionally gendered male.
Does misandry exist?
I reject the “women hold no power societally so misandry is impossible” formulation, as it’s usually just a dodge to avoid engaging with actual harm being caused.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
I’ve gotten lots of advantages from being a cis man, including at least one significant job offer that I know for a fact I only got because of my gender. At the same time, I’ve been downstream of some nasty stereotypes about men, and been considered an easy target for certain kinds of attacks, also because of my gender. Turns out life is complicated.
What best describes you?
I’ve written extensively about men’s issues from a feminist standpoint.