About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
A culture of disrespect and violence towards women. I would distinguish it from individual sexist or misogynist perspectives in that it’s about people holding power and putting others at a disadvantage rather than hate or anger. So, the way I understand it, someone might be non-misogynist but still benefit from the advantages of privilege and inequality; or have negative views about women but less access to structural advantage.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
creating expectations about my behaviour that don’t really chime with my self-image. It’s hard to say how much of this is patriarchy and how much is other aspects of how society is ordered: eg capitalism or stories presented by the media
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I suppose passively, by being born into privilege; I’m sure I’ve had sexist views in the past which have changed over time
How would you define masculinity?
there are mainstream models of masculinity revolving around power, imperviousness, and lack of emotional reflection that I would reject; I don’t think of myself in terms of my masculinity, but if I did, the sort of things I would consider would be courage, creativity, compassion, resilience and generosity. I’m not sure how those are male traits, but there are few traits I would view as inspirational in men and not in women.
Does misandry exist?
I’m sure there are some women who, either due to negative experiences with men or otherwise, feel anger or hatred towards men. I think this is a different phenomenon from patriarchy for all sorts of reasons, not least of all scale.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
I am not aware of direct prejudice either way, but if I had benefitted positively I might not have been aware
What best describes you?
None of the above
Would rather not say