About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Introduction to the survey I don’t think this survey is representative of all men. To a certain extent, it’s a survey of feminist-leaning men. The initial respondents came generally from that POV, and as the survey grew, it was mostly shared by feminists. That said, it does represent many other viewpoints. For example, there were a few hundred in a row where it was mostly being filled in by Men’s Rights Activists. But whatever their starting point, the men filling in the survey had Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
Yes
How would you define patriarchy?
Men having more power in society generally and delineating gender roles.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
I feel like the stigma around men admitting to having metal health issues because it makes them seem weak has hurt me.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I have expected women to be sexually available to be in return for me doing certain things for them
How would you define masculinity?
I don’t know. Being like a character from Sons of Anarchy/
Does misandry exist?
Yes
Yes, people can be dismissive of men who feel sexually objectified as many feel like it’s just “their turn””
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Maybe
What best describes you?
Nice guy
But I’m aware of the negative connotations associated with that word. You seem to be bringing a lot of assumptions to this survey. If I said feminist would have you considered me a TERF, a trans positive feminist, a sex positive feminist, a third wave feminist, second wave, or first wave? What does that word mean?