About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
The assumption that gender roles are innate, and the social norms, structures and power dynamics based on this assumption. Patriarchy is the male side of this, but it’s something perpetuated by many of both sexes.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
The assumption that I have a certain nature means that it was taken as for-granted, and so I was conditioned along those lines. I also get flack for choosing to mix gender roles, by acting in feminine manners, both in my behaviours and attire.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
Conditioning against and lack of opportunity in expressing ‘feminine’ emotions causing communication issues, not realising how biased my perception had been, not realising how harmful the male gaze is. (I have hurt myself by hurting others).
How would you define masculinity?
I honestly couldn’t say, other than the other text I’ve entered in this form.
Does misandry exist?
Cos, fuck, males can be right dicks. See the male gaze, mansplaining, existing social inequalities, etc. We are assumed not to be safe, so some people avoid us, which is hurtful but a statistically valid form of reaction. I don’t know the right phrase for that, i.e., experientially (not existentially).
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
I have been beaten up and disowned by my family for wearing skirts. I have been excluded from ‘girly’ activities.
What best describes you?
Existentialist, humanist, gq/tg.