About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Introduction to the survey I don’t think this survey is representative of all men. To a certain extent, it’s a survey of feminist-leaning men. The initial respondents came generally from that POV, and as the survey grew, it was mostly shared by feminists. That said, it does represent many other viewpoints. For example, there were a few hundred in a row where it was mostly being filled in by Men’s Rights Activists. But whatever their starting point, the men filling in the survey had Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
Yes
How would you define patriarchy?
As in a family the man making the decisions, a somewhat submission of the wife in this aspect, rather than a sharing in final decisions
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Well sometimes I feel, felt I wanted not the burden so much of this, also in a church an abusive pastor made this more of a standard than generally acceptable to a modern family, as well as ruining the harmony in individuals thru impatient demands to grow
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
By not considering and listening fully to those looking up to me, rash decisions
How would you define masculinity?
Definitely not macho. There is a great video on YouTube called man up! I agree mostly, there is a softening of ego that should come with age, a safe place for a woman or a child in your life to be free, herself, non possessive, more understanding the old macho man is on the decline ( in me anyway for sure). Twitter has somewhat opened my eyes with a glimpse into the sub/ Dom culture, which I try to understand but it is difficult for me as I believe there is an equality lost there and I wonder what is the root of that. Sorry, off topic, but is it the man’s need to dominate or the woman who wants submission? I find it a little interesting though not my thing
Does misandry exist?
Yes
Rarely extreme feminism has an element
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
No
What best describes you?
None of the above
All relationships are an island, their own world, in this way I say none of the above, but mostly an egalitarian