Respondent 917

Does patriarchy exist?


How would you define patriarchy?

It’s a system of leadership or government exclusive not just to men, but to *fathers*, the *heads of the families*. When we talk about an Anglo-Saxon Witenagemot, or a Senate (from Rome to America) or an Afghani Loya Jirga, that’s a patriarchy visibly at work. Primogeniture and M?r?th are primary buttresses of patriarchy.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

My father died when I was young and I didn’t have a stepfather until I reached maturity. So I had no lodestar for navigating patriarchy and that has made me unclubbable for my entire adult life.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Definitely. Because of the gap in my learning (see above) I thought in my family and my work I always had to be *ruthless* and dominant, when of course one need only be ruthless and dominant when one has to be. And not even then…

How would you define masculinity?

Keep a weather eye on everything, keep silent and calm, and act firmly and only take charge and fight if you have to. When that soldier is coming up the garden path might be too late.

Does misandry exist?


Misandry is very specific. It is commonly a male-oriented nagging from a single woman. It’s the contemporary phrase ‘bloody, fucking MEN’ – that’s misandrist, because my generation has lived in a time of much greater equality, when the reasons women have for hating men have much diminished.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?


What best describes you?

An egalitarian