About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
System in which, be it within a society or an institution, social, political or otherwise, principally men are in positions of power and benefiting from privileges given by those positions of power. And where women, even when in similar positions, do not reap the same benefits and are otherwise generally excluded by design, tradition, or by subconscious social norms from attaining positions which would upset the male dominated system of power. This system also filters down to more everyday notions of society and how men and women regard each other, with the former subconsciously or otherwise encouraged to believe that the latter is lesser.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
it has robbed me of many potentially life changing contributions from women in many industries and sectors that have been sidelined in favour of their male counterparts for no justifiable or quantifiable reason. It also sets a bad example for equality and integration in other areas, all based on illogical outdated and unfair ideas of “tradition”
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
The effect of living as a man under the patriarchy makes it almost impossible to answer that question. Because the patriarchy places me in a position where I am both unaware of its invisible workings in my favour, as well as painfully aware of how few women are present in so many walks of life that are not stigmatised as being “female centric”, as well as being oblivious to my direct participation in it as an average man not in any physical position of power. I suppose being a black man living in a White European society might mitigate the strength of the effect I have towards the exclusion of women somewhat
How would you define masculinity?
John Wayne? But on a more serious note, the idea of masculinity and femininity are falsehoods (also empowered by the patriarchy) that put people in neatly labeled boxes which encourages exclusion. The same characteristics that define a man (other than the obvious) could well describe any woman, and vice versa.
Does misandry exist?
It exists the same way prejudice of all forms exists
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
What best describes you?