About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
The systematic way in which men are favored in all or most facets of society.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
It has made it hard feeling comfortable about being a man and doing what’s right. I feel bad walking home behind a woman at night or sitting next to women on public transit because I can feel there unease with me. I’m a big overbearing dude and I look intimidating. I’m completely harmless but because of what other men do, I can’t feel normal around women and they can’t feel safe around me, when they really are.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
Not that I can think of but more than likely I have. I used to jokingly ask for numbers driving by women on the street. And even though I know I was only kidding to make my friends laugh, that probably made them feel pretty uncomfortable.
How would you define masculinity?
I enjoy things that are traditionally manly. I smoke a pipe and cigars, brew beer, do yard work, watch football. But I know it’s all made up. It’s a part of a spectrum of personality traits.
Does misandry exist?
But it’s not a significant social problem and is usually a result of male to female sexism.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
What best describes you?