About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
The set of structures (cultural, ideological, societal) that place as paramount the desires of men (specifically white, heterosexual men) over all other cultural groups.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
A lot less than others – I’m in the group it’s meant to service. That being said, I find myself very attracted to strong females, and that is an archetype that is very much not accepted or accomodated by our society.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I worked security for over a decade. You will not find a purer distillation of the direct means by which patriarchy harms all of us than what you find in security and law enforcement.
How would you define masculinity?
For myself, I define it as keeping my word, trusting others, being humble, and always trying to be there for those who need or want help. This is at odds with how society defines it, but it’s how I measure myself as a man.
Does misandry exist?
Sure – so do blind archers. Both are about as common, in my experience.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
If you wear a uniform, and are a white man, you can be seen as THE white man. I had a lot of situations in security where I was immediately the enemy, whether or not I wanted to be. I didn’t get upset by that much – I saw far too often how justified this view could be.
What best describes you?