Respondent 89

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A system of largely unconscious biases that reward and punish particular set of values and qualities. Women have a razor’s edge of being attractive but not slutty. Men must be manly, which is to say, not feminine. A tilted playing field.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Me, not so much. I’m white, Western, educated, male and mainly straight, so it all works to my advantage. It’s bequeathed me some toxic notions of how and who I ought to be, which can’t make me happy.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I find myself paying attention to people based on how attractive they are, not on the quality of their argument or experience. It makes me more stupid.

How would you define masculinity?

Much less narrowly than most, with many more qualities stereotypically associated with femininity: sympathetic, nurturing, supportive, un-competitive, emotionally available etc.

Does misandry exist?

No

As a great general force in society? No. The notion that having your privilege pointed out is in any way comparable to being oppressed is a nonsense.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

No

What best describes you?

A feminist

For some reason it seems even more iffy to claim one is an ally than a straight-up Feminist. Oddly, I identify as a Feminist and my fiancee doesn’t.