About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
The general cultural tendency toward male benefit, which puts non-males at a disadvantaged state by cultural default.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
By promoting a cultural image of a stereotypical Man who provides, protects and leads, which puts upon me and other men sometimes unrealistic and unfair expectations and social pressures.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I do not know that I have, though of course I cannot be sure. I do know that I have sometimes responded to concerns expressed by women by dismissing them, because it never occured to me that what to me may be of no concern could be seriously threatening to them – and genuinely so. Like walking through poorly lit areas late at night, even in “nice” neighbourhoods.
How would you define masculinity?
Confidence, bravery, willingness to provide and protect.
Does misandry exist?
…but it no different from sexism other than in (usually unnecessary) specificity of direction, and it is far, far less common than sexism directed at women and – because of the patriarchy – far, far less nefarious.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Not in a professional setting, technically, though it was at work. I worked as a teacher, teaching language and primary school classes to adult immigrants. Gendered and sexed prejudice is very commonplace among the student population in places like that, and it is a primary concern for teachers to deal with them both pre-emptively and as the prejudices are expressed.
What best describes you?
I would ideally categorise as an egalitarian, but the pragmatist in me realises that a feminine-oriented approach is necessary to achieve the desired balance.