About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
Men who dominate how the world works, which can often be detrimental to women.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
By setting out certain gender morms for male behaviour which not all men fit into.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
By parroting negative views about how women should behave, dress, etc.
How would you define masculinity?
The traditional view is that it’s about being physically strong and confident and concealing emotion.
Does misandry exist?
Some feminists are determined to demonise men for being men. Listening to a lot of feminist opinions did cause me to hate a lot of my male traits for a while, but a lot of what feminists dislike about men isn’t learned behavior, it’s stuff that i would argue is hardwired into us.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
People generally feel more comfortable if you pretend you fit neatly within stereotypical gender roles
What best describes you?
Feminists don’t like the term equalitist or equalist, saying that this is what feminism is. But feminism is in practice for women and there to help make things better for women, which is a very positive thing to do, but this is different from trying to make things equal for both genders. Men’s rights aren’t really considered within feminsism, and men aren’t really included in the conversation. Also there are different types of feminsism. If you say you’re a feminist guys will tend to think of extremist feminists that get headlines but don’t necessarily represent most feminists views. I’d say I’m a feminist and an equalitist.