Respondent 88

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

A systematic bias of power towards (usually white, usually old) traditionally male people.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

I think I’ve got off lightly, but certainly I still worry that expressing emotions will make me appear “unmanly”; I don’t like the assumption that I will need to make the first move in sexual contexts, the need for ownership/control by male dynasties has biased society towards monogamy as a social norm, and I have a growing suspicion that that isn’t the system that best reflects how I experience the world.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

I try very hard not to hurt people, but I have certainly devalued emotional expression – used it as an excuse to discard someone’s view as they were not logical. I rarely feel like I don’t have space to express my opinion in groups, but on reflection most of the people who clearly were equally happy to take that space were people who looked like me.

How would you define masculinity?

A construct built by various social pressures and advertising, about what a socially high value male “should” be like. Values, thought patterns or actions typically/historically attributed to that.

Does misandry exist?

Yes

but not as a systematic force that significantly affects my life.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Yes

What best describes you?

A feminist