About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
A pervasive system which privileges men at the expense of women.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Eh… not so much. It’s a pretty sweet deal if you’re a guy. I will say that patriarchy used to be so much better. Now it’s kinda watered down.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
It would be nearly impossible to reduce our interpersonal interactions to one force, “i.e. the patriarchy” when our culture has any number of factors contributing to our actions. Can I say, specifically, that I took x action because of the patriarchy? No, I can’t.
How would you define masculinity?
A commonly accepted set of characteristics and behaviors generally associated with men.
Does misandry exist?
Sure. There are undoubtedly people who hate men because of their maleness. I don’t find anything surprising about that. Is there a large, system-wide, institutional misandry? No.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Difficult to say. People might have been prejudiced for or against me based on any number of factors – my skin color, my appearance, my social class, my dress. I work in the arts, so certainly there have been times when I was not “exotic enough” for certain awards or opportunities. As my agent would say, “no one is looking for the next great straight white male.”
What best describes you?