About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
The gamed system that we live in today. No way would a merit based society be this good at delivering old white dudes as the top dogs in pretty much every aspect of human endeavour.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Expectation. Being male there is a maleness that I never quite fitted into. I’m straight, white, male and into sports and heavy metal but I’m not the guy to be screaming SLAYER or doing anything that would belong on the LAD Bible so late teens and twenties took some real negotiation before I was at a point where I could just say ‘fuck it, I am who I am, whatever’. I probably missed some real opportunities to pursue things I’d be interested in or to stand out as myself because of it.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
Not intentionally I hope. My work as always been in female dominated work places and I don’t think I was ever stepping over anyone or trying to do anyone down in a man knows best way there – or in life.
How would you define masculinity?
Competitiveness belongs there. A certain loneliness too. Expectations to live up to. Some people embrace and power through, others capitulate and develop there own thing but its always going to be in relation or opposition, defined beside, that competitive maleness that saturates everything. Even if it slips into being the most non-mainstream/non-conformist, its still playing the game.
Does misandry exist?
Every prejudice is bound to exist to some degree somewhere, otherwise why would we be able to name it?
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
What best describes you?
An ally to feminism
If only because I’m never truly going to know what its like to be a woman so I can’t stake a claim to the identity politics which exists to strengthen their position. I don’t want to claim it for myself even if there are next to no statements involved I could disagree with.