About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
Men are over-represented in positions of power, creating a self-purpetuating bias towards other men reaching positions of power. Traditionally male characteristics are seen as positive virtues, traditionally female characteristics are seen as weaknesses. Women have to act like men to keep up. Bias can be unconcious as well as concious.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
In the grand scheme of things, no it hasn’t hurt me directly. But it hurts the people I love. My wife won’t climb the career ladder in the same way as me as she’ll never be as good at playing the game, despite being much smarter and more hardworking than me. That makes me sad. I suppose I could say it adds pressure to make sure that I succeed, although that sounds a bit selfish when I write it down.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
Probably in all sorts of ways that I haven’t realised – the ways I realise I try to avoid.
How would you define masculinity?
Being strong in a crisis. Determination. Is the point of the question to see there is anything masculine that women can’t do?
Does misandry exist?
I don’t know what misandry is!
Ok I just googled it. Not in the same way that misogyny does. The fact that some men suffer from not meeting societal expectations of masculinity should probably have a different word.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Hard to say. Probably. I’ve probably connected better with male bosses than female co-workers have. But perhaps the reverse is true too.
What best describes you?
Sure something as obvious as gender equality doesn’t need a special name. Decent human being?