Respondent 86

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Men are over-represented in positions of power, creating a self-purpetuating bias towards other men reaching positions of power. Traditionally male characteristics are seen as positive virtues, traditionally female characteristics are seen as weaknesses. Women have to act like men to keep up. Bias can be unconcious as well as concious.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

In the grand scheme of things, no it hasn’t hurt me directly. But it hurts the people I love. My wife won’t climb the career ladder in the same way as me as she’ll never be as good at playing the game, despite being much smarter and more hardworking than me. That makes me sad. I suppose I could say it adds pressure to make sure that I succeed, although that sounds a bit selfish when I write it down.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Probably in all sorts of ways that I haven’t realised – the ways I realise I try to avoid.

How would you define masculinity?

Being strong in a crisis. Determination. Is the point of the question to see there is anything masculine that women can’t do?

Does misandry exist?

I don’t know what misandry is!

Ok I just googled it. Not in the same way that misogyny does. The fact that some men suffer from not meeting societal expectations of masculinity should probably have a different word.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Maybe

Hard to say. Probably. I’ve probably connected better with male bosses than female co-workers have. But perhaps the reverse is true too.

What best describes you?

Nice guy

Sure something as obvious as gender equality doesn’t need a special name. Decent human being?