About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
Traditional expectations around gender roles, tied in to men “ruling” things in line with traditions of male roles among the ruling classes.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
When I was younger, I always linked my clinical depression to being single, as in, a failure to “get” a girlfriend was a failure at doing the things men should do.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I’m struggling to think of occasions, which is probably more down to my memory than anything else. I messed a girl around for a while because I felt like I ought to be, you know, sowing my oats widely, or something.
How would you define masculinity?
I think the only definition for masculinity is still the archaic one which ties in with patriarchy. Being tough, emotionless, all that. I don’t think there is one that reflects a less patriarchal society. Don’t know whether or not that’s a bad thing, either.
Does misandry exist?
If only from a linguistic/logical standpoint. If there exists misogyny (and there does), then the opposite gender equivalent is more than likely true. Doesn’t mean it’s particularly important though.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Only in a way that has advantaged me
What best describes you?
(I hovered between “feminist” and “ally”. I’m quite passive so I don’t know if that disqualifies me from what some consider an ‘activist’ position to take)