About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
A system which promotes, encourages and enforces ‘traditional’ gender roles – often to the detriment and disadvantage of women and those not conforming. It serves to protect itself, and has thus influenced existing power structures, laws and societal norms.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
It has restricted my options to take on roles and behaviors outside those that the patriarchy approves, and has disadvantaged or harmed women and other people who I care about.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
It has offered compliance with patriarchal approved roles and behaviour as a path of least resistance – so for temporary advantage I have consciously or unconciously hidden behind ‘that’s the way it is’ arguments, and taken advantage of those characteristics which I have naturally (Y chromosome!) which the Patriarchy has chosen to reward – from fitting in with male peers, to just not having to queue for a bathroom.
How would you define masculinity?
A culture and societal expectations defined by those behaviours and chracteristics exclusive to men – of which there are very few! Culture may have socialised us towards blue rather than pink, or trucks over dolls, but that’s just learned bullshit. What is promoted as Masculine culture is just more advertiser led or just plain divisive nonsense. The only true examples of masculinity would be things like the ability to grow a moustache or get prostate cancer – and that’s already exclusionary of transmen and people who can’t cultivate facial hair. Binary gender division is bullshit!
Does misandry exist?
but, whereas I’m sure in this wide world there are people that hate men just for being men (in the same way that a wide enough sample will have people who love Marmite, but hate twiglets) the most frequent example of Misandry which I observe is Men’s Rights Activists saying that Men are naturally rapists who can’t control themselves and have been provoked or led into terrible stuff. That’s fucking offensive!
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
But most frequently in a way that I’m being ‘unmanly’
What best describes you?