About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
a situation where the male or males hold primary power.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
I think a patriarchal attitude that persist in society despite of years of movement towards gender equality is that a mans safety, well being or life is worth less than a womans. People care less if a man is hurt or upset, as such help is less forthcoming. This is compounded by another patriarchal attitude that men should be strong and independent enough not to need help. I see this situation getting worse not better and it hurts society and therefore me directly. Examples of the implications of these attitudes are much higher male suicide rates, much more likely to be victim of violence, almost as likely to be a victim of domestic violence. These last two are particularly pertinent because they are issues widely discussed in society when women are victims but barely acknowledged as an issue affecting males.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
probably is subtle ways I don’t even realise but certainly I find it difficult to discuss mine or other peoples feelings which I know for a fact has made things difficult for my partner and previous partner.
How would you define masculinity?
It depends on the context. Anatomically a being’s masculinity would relate to the presence and prominence of those anatomical features most associated with the male side of the species.In a social context it is more difficult as the differences between individuals across both sexes could well be greater than the perceived differences between the sexes as a whole. I suppose then at best I could say the definition of masculinity is fluid as I cant really define it.
Does misandry exist?
Of course it exists. Both men and women have been shafted by outdated perceptions of gender. Feminism has become a dirty word because in popular media it does not recognise men as victims of sexism merely the perpetrators. We will never move toward equality if 48% of the population (men) are not engaged or even feel welcome in the conversation.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
I was once asked in a job (I was the only bloke) if the reason I was struggling in a certain situation was because I was male and therefore could not multi task. I felt like they were trying to steer me away from that work for this reason. Once I had finally received the proper training I did just fine. Im sure women put up with that shit all the time. There was always the ‘why cant the boys behave like girls’ attitude at school as well I suppose.
What best describes you?