Respondent 847

Does patriarchy exist?


How would you define patriarchy?

A huge pile of bullshit that keeps power in the old boys club.

How has patriarchy hurt you?

I get the piss taken out of me for promoting equality. If I were a paranoid man, I’d say that I was spoken poorly of behind closed doors and that it subsequently hurt my chances of success, but fuckit, that’s a view held by paranoid insecure assholes. If I didn’t get the promotion, it’s because someone else was better, not because I spoke out against objectification. To chest-thump otherwise is to embody the negative side of masculinity.

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Yeah, pretty much constantly, no matter how hard I try to avoid it I’ll still accidentally say half the words in a meeting with three other women, and talk about golf and beer with my interview panel.

How would you define masculinity?

A sense of identity in a group of traits traditionally associated with the male gender. As with any group identity, it has the potential to become exclusionary or feel threatened by other group identities. I believe masculinity is redeemable but this is outwith the ability of our current society as a whole, and most men generally.

Does misandry exist?


Isolated occurrences in specific situations, but set against a backdrop of historical imbalance. Is “whitey” racially oppressed in the hood? Technically yes, but taken in a wider historical context, it’s more complex. Anyway, I believe true equality will happen, not when no men or women are ever advantaged or disadvantaged over each other, but when the various isolated bullshit inequalities are shared 50:50 between men and women. I’d like to see half of all industries have a “higher paid females” problem, not 1 in 100 as we have now.

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

Oh shit yes, being a straight white man is like playing life on easy mode. The only problem is the company is pretty shameful. There are a bunch of immature kids around you yelling “it’s easy, stop being a pussy” at all the black gay women playing the game of life on “brutal”, a choice they didn’t make.

What best describes you?

A feminist

Feminist isn’t really my word and I don’t deserve to have my voice heard by other feminists, and I have nothing useful to say to feminist women or allies. However, the label is useful to get less enlightened men to fucking think for a second.