About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
The condition of a society whose powerful positions are mostly occupied by cishetero white men and the conscious or unconscious biases that arise from that network’s influence.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Does it matter? I’m a cishetero white guy. It’s helped me far more than it’s hurt me. Talking about how patriarchy may or may not have hurt me takes time and focus away from exposing how it’s hurt everyone else. It can’t be about me. That’s the whole point.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I exist. That’s hurtful enough. I mean, I could point out the occasional thoughtless/ignorant microagression but really the numbers start piling up in how much I have and use versus how much other people don’t have or use, despite than I’m nowhere near “the 0.1%” or even the “1%.”
How would you define masculinity?
At the risk of being circular, masculinity is whatever attracts those who are attracted to men. Generally I suppose you could say this involves assertiveness and a certain type of physique but if someone who is attracted to masculinity is attracted to you, you’re doing something correctly.
Does misandry exist?
Clarification: One can be a misandrist. There are plenty of those – people who are prejudiced against men. Misandry as a social force (like misogyny) does not.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Only in a way that has advantaged me
What best describes you?
None of the above
I try to be intersectional. Until I develop or find some kind of metric with which to assess my success at doing so, I’m uncomfortable claiming to be much of anything.