About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
A system in which men are, or should be, superior to women in most (if not all) ways, and that women should know their place in this system.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
By being associated with men who espouse the idea of the patriarchy as legitimate, I am guilty by that association. It hurts all men, and does us a huge disservice. We have no right to complain, however, as we are all guilty of participating in behaviour that has hurt women. The “not all men” defence is no defence at all. We are ALL guilty. I’m not comfortable with this question, as to answer it implies that I feel I have been wronged in some way, when it’s me who has been doing the harming.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
Where do I start? In just about any way you can imagine, with the exception of physical violence or activity. I’m not proud of it, and deeply regret it in light of becoming more educated in feminism and the patriarchy in the last ten years or so. I suspect the damage is too serious to ever repair.
How would you define masculinity?
I don’t think it’s possible to define it. I mean, “Being strong and muscly, drinking beer, watching football, eating Yorkies”. Women can do all of those things, so why should they only apply to men? Is there any one thing that sets men apart from women as “masculine”?
Does misandry exist?
I think misandry is justified.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Of course I haven’t – I’m a man. Ask women this question and you’ll get a 100% “yes” response. But you knew that already.
What best describes you?
An ally to feminism