About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
The subjugation of women – and other groups – through a perceived “normal” heirarchy in which men should be the dominant force.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Only in so much as I’m embarrassed by it.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I think, even with the best intentions, it’s sometimes easy to forget that we’re only taught to behave in certain ways, that some roles aren’t the norm, and that perhaps what’s a joke to you can have painful repercussions for those you might, inadvertantly, target.
How would you define masculinity?
Modern masculinity is meaningless, the idea of masculinty stems from the reductive notion of hunter/gatherer, the cliches of being the one that goes out, fights the beast, etc. Which I think, even historically, is a misnomer. Masculinity is a delusion used to excuse brutish behavior.
Does misandry exist?
Though I think it’s a response borne of years of being stamped upon, and I think you’re more likely to find misogynistic women than you are misandrists.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Though I’d say it’s sort of at the expense of not fitting into “masculine” ideas, like not being good at/or interested in sport, that sort of thing. Though, it’s all pretty minor stuff compared to what others have been through, so I feel a bit silly ticking the yes box there.
What best describes you?