About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
A dynamic of social and economic injustice that places and maintains control and privilege in the hands of heteronormative cis men (which I am).
How has patriarchy hurt you?
By making it excessively difficult for a lot of women I care about. And by maintaining a world in which weakness in men is unacceptable.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I’m pretty sure I’ve made all the mistakes: take women less seriously, mansplain, been creepy and abusive.
How would you define masculinity?
Tough one. I guess a dynamic of predispositions –, behavioural, sexuality, or otherwise — associated with men, as measurables they manifest as attitudes. Usually sweeping, coarse and prescriptive. Like, men don’t cry; men buy dinner; men do fly-fishing; men get what they want — sexually; men can carry heavy stuff; women pack the bags for men in kindergartens; men don’t make dinner, but men do BBQ.
Does misandry exist?
You meet isolated cases of people who assume you’re a rapist because you own math books and are mean about it; still that is not indicative of structural oppression of men as much as a misguided, and somewhat understandable albeit douchy and mean, reaction to patriarchy.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Directed towards me, I’m assumed to be intelligent, capable, brave, with no weakness. For some, whenever this shows itself to be untrue I’m often as good as worthless. For the great majority of times, though, I benefit immensely from it.
What best describes you?