About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
A society governed by and for the benefit of men. In practice, this means the systemic privilege conferred for simply being a man and, therefore, the oppression of women.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
I am forced to consider the fact that half the population is oppressed and I am part of the oppressing group. That is uncomfortable and makes me feel guilty. It also means that the opinions of half the population are given less weight and exposure – which means we miss out on diverse opinions.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I have taken jobs that I wasn’t really qualified for, had expectations of women that were unfounded and expected preferential treatment, all based on the over-confidence conferred by being a man in a patriarchal society (wow – this is like a confessional!)
How would you define masculinity?
Does misandry exist?
It probably exists, but I don’t feel it has any particular bad effects. Any oppressed group will hate their oppressors, different people will express this different ways. It often gets tagged with a “negative” word.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Only in a way that has advantaged me
I am pretty sure that I am listened to more in meetings with a range of people than my wife, for no reason. I have consistently been paid more than women with equal qualifications.
What best describes you?