About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
The way in which institutions, traditions and cultural practices are structured so as to preferentially give power (of various sorts) preferentially to men, over women.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Not in the slightest. Well – it has perhaps done me some very minor harms, in that I didn’t strongly cleave to traditional masculine ideals, and perhaps suffered some minor discontent as I got to grips wirh this. And I suffer, as do we all, from the fact that women’s talents are not being put to best use, and their points of view are less frequently heard. But so far as direct harm goes, any injury I’ve suffered has been minimal, in comparison to the advantages I’ve been afforded.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
Oh, goodness. This survey is going to take a while, isn’t it. Well – indirectly, I suppose I’ve caused harm, or at least not done as much as I could to alleviate it, every microsecond of the day when I’ve made use of the benefits afforded me by society, and not been actively trying to change it. Directly… well, I don’t know. If I’d noticed it I hope I wouldn’t have done it (whatever it was), but it seems indubitable that I’ve hurt people in ways that I didn’t notice. Even if it were something as simple as talking over a friend or colleague, that can cause hurt, and I suppose I’ve probably done things worse than that. I just have no idea what they are, off-hand.
How would you define masculinity?
Oh, ugh…. something like: a set of norms which have traditionally bern associated with males, I suppose.
Does misandry exist?
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Only in a way that has advantaged me
What best describes you?
An ally to feminism