About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
The spoken or unspoken agreement among men that decision is their right and responsibility, mostly as practiced by gatekeepers but also in terms of interpersonal expectations.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
My unwillingness/inability to reach for the brass ring or “perform” masculinity usually casts me as juvenile (socially) or unreliable (professionally), when I don’t think either are accurate. Not conforming as a male is seen either as traitorous or naieve by other males and undesirable by the general population of women.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
Probably mostly in relationships as a teenager, trying to figure out when I’m “supposed” to take the lead and how. As an adult I think I’ve been too isolated to meaningfully exert anything negative over anyone. I hope?
How would you define masculinity?
I’d try not to. I dunno, like, stoicism vs perceived self mastery vs american postwar exceptionalism.
Does misandry exist?
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
What best describes you?
An ally to feminism