About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
I’d break it down to a family level. In a patriarchy most of the decisions will be or would have been made by the father or the man of the house. In regards to how this system developed, I would point to the fact that most of the hard, backbreaking work, which was crucial to survival in earlier times, has been done by men, who were thereby responsible for the survival of the family unit. It’s therefore quite logical that this provider was able to enact a certain power over the other members of the family unit and was the one calling the shots.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
It hasn’t. It doesn’t exist anymore in my country (Germany). Several studies have shown that it’s usually women who are now responsible for most of the financial spending in this country. Women possess the same rights as men do and share pretty much all of the responsibilities that come with them.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
Since I have stated before that “the Patriarchy” doesn’t exist here anymore, I highly doubt I would be able to do that. No woman is obliged by law or societal pressure to bend to my wishes, they have the same ability to tell me to fuck off I also have.
How would you define masculinity?
I don’t really have a definition for masculinity and I personally don’t give a fuck if a person is the steretypical macho or effeminate. As long as you don’t try to tell me how I should live my life I really don’t care.
Does misandry exist?
The country I live in recently introduced a womens’ quota bill. This bill states that the executive commitees of the biggest companies in my country (the ones that are listed at the stock exchange) have to consist of at least 30% women or these seats have to remain empty. That not only is actually against the German constitution (in particular article 3) it also breaks current law and introduces a system that puts sex above merit. Apparently having a vagina is now more important than actually being good at your job. I’ll also refer to the quite prominent legal case regarding J�rg Kachelmann here in Germany. Another example would be some of the protesters involved in the UVA rape scandal.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
I was repeatedly picked on and hit by girls in school. Several complaints to my teachers proved to be in vain. One day I decided to retaliate and punched one of the girls. Guess who the one was who got a 2 day suspension.
What best describes you?