About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
A social system which primarily benefits males, in which males hold the majority of power and directly curtail the accruement of power by women. In layman’s terms it puts men at the top and keeps men at the top.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Not applicable because the society of my country (England) is not in my view a patriarchal one, given that it is codified in English law that Men and Women are to be treated equally.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
Not applicable as above. I find these two questions interesting as they assert the premise that whomever is completing this survey lives in a patriarchal society, and as such convey that the belief of the author is that all societies are patriarchal. I do not know that this is necessarily the case, however this is what I inferred from the phrasing of this question and the last.
How would you define masculinity?
A set of traits generally considered to be archetypal or characteristic of males.
Does misandry exist?
It is certainly possible for someone to explicitly hate men, and I’m sure there are people who do.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
I can’t specifically think of any examples notable enough to warrant mentioning, however I cannot explicitly say that being a man has never given me any advantage or disadvantage. In all likelihood at some point in my life both have occurred.
What best describes you?
I have never really applied to myself any term relating to my stance on gender equality, but out of the choices I prefer the term egalitarian. Feminist is a term too broadly used by too many different groups for me to identify with, the only thing common to these groups seems to be that they advocate for women’s rights, however I believe in the rights of all people, not just women, so the term feminist would seem ill fitting. I know that some feminists would disagree with me on this. I don’t really know how an equalist differs from an egalitarian, and describing myself as a ‘Nice guy’ just sounds conceited