About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
Systematic privileging of men and their interests and attitudes
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Makes masculinity toxic, something you have to fight your way out of, shut off avenues of experience and expression. But hey I’m a man. Could be a lot worse…
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
Emotional stupidity, conniving in blokey bullying, cheated on good people, behaving like a born-to-rule arsehole
How would you define masculinity?
Biologically, it’ll be dick-related (but not totally). Socially, it’s about systematically promoting values like individualism, recklessness, lack of concern for others, emotion as a weakness, aggression as honesty. There are good things associated with masculinity too, though: rationally working through a problem, making conceptual leaps, bravery and courage, standing by principles, supporting people who need support. Women can do all that too, obis, but this is about masculinity not men.
Does misandry exist?
Well, I’m sure it exists individually. Some women may hate men. But it’s not part of the system; it’s not embodied in institutions and education and the whole way in which we are constituted as people. And without those deep foundations, it’s basically not very different from some people not being keen on avocadoes.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
I’d think homophobia (which is related to patriarchy) made my school life a bit more toxic than it should have been. Not that I’m gay (well, not ALL THAT gay) but I think that’s one of the way emotions and tenderness are mocked out of you as a kid.
What best describes you?
An ally to feminism