About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
The fact that everything is male centric, from our very language (man vs WOman – ie a man with a womb, thus making male the default; mankind, etc) to the dominance on men in positions of power and authority. It’s institutional sexism, where the institution is civilisation itself.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
I guess. I’ve probably missed out on having far better bosses and run ins with authority because of the lack of women in these positions. My partner would probably earn more if it didn’t exist, so my life might be easier. Of course it might have gone the other way – we have no way of knowing.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
Yes. In my younger years I felt entitled to women in a way that I now see is grossly wrong. I’ve essentially sexually assaulted girls in the past (grinding/groping in clubs and gigs) thanks to a cultural sense of entitlement. It’s fucked up and I feel deeply ashamed. I’ll also admit to having to actively combat my own sexism that’s been instilled in me by the patriarchal society I still sometimes have to actively stop myself from dismissing a woman’s opinion because I happen to think she’s physically attractive for example.
How would you define masculinity?
This is actually a really tough question. These days I’d say you’re masculine if you identify as such. Traditionally I’d define it as being predisposed to doing ‘manly’ stuff – basically anything that involves being active and using your physical strength. And being a dick about it.
Does misandry exist?
Yes, but only in a tiny tiny TINY proportion of super radical feminists. Is misandry actually a problem? HELL NO.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Only in a way that has advantaged me
What best describes you?