About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
The complete and overwhelming dominance of men over women in almost every aspect of society. The entire system of being is pre-destined and designed to give certain type of masculinities an advantage over women. To summarise, an unbalanced power heirarchy.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Being male with tendencies that don’t fit the hegemonic masculinity types, I have bewn bullied, looked down upon, abused and have not been given the same opportunities as my colleagues have in the workplace and education. Moreover it has hurt my friends who are female which has in turn hurt me to see them suffer. Finally it means that I often feel unable to contribute to discussions on gender issues because I am male and so certain individuals may not take seriously my contributions. Admittedly, not being female means the argument is often not mine to take part in and so I don’t mind standing to one side, but in arguments where I could make a reasonable contribution, often I don’t because of the various ways that patriarchy has hurt me. Additionally, although it hasn’t hurt me it has made my life experience worse in that many of my friends who I could share my favourite hobby with; videogames, I don’t because of the overwhelming patriarchy and mysoginy within videogames culture that puts many female gamers off.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
Growing up, before being more aware of gender issues I held stereotypes to do with gender. I belittled feminism and I made fun of other males with stereotypically female qualities. All of this was however before becomming more educated, being more aware of the drastic inequalities and the harm they can do and then becomming a feminist myself.
How would you define masculinity?
There is no such thing. It is a social construct determining how one should act based on their birth gender.
Does misandry exist?
Misandry doesn’t exist other than as an excuse to get away with sexism.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
In positive ways, by being provided more authoratative roles at work, but also in negative ways. By not confprming to gender norms I have received a large amount of bullying and abuse which now causes me mental health issues and confidence issues.
What best describes you?