About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
A classist system based on gender roles, requiring the males in any male-female mix to be the higher classes
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Patriarchy limits options by requiring decisions be made in certain ways, in certain circumstances. This hurts both the male and female members of society
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
This assumes guilt, which is very flattering. Thank you for knee-jerking. However, being part of society that is dominated by patriarchy, and not having, in every moment of my life, acted consciously and with full empathy for everyone around me, it is reasonable to assume that I have acted to perpetuate the patriarchal standard. This limits options for myself and others, as noted in #3.
How would you define masculinity?
I wouldn’t. Seriously. I’ve never really known what “masculinity” and “femininity” were, in specific terms. I have known many males who express as stereotypically female and the obverse of that. Most people I’ve met are somewhere in between, on a spectrum. A very few folk I’ve known have not fallen into either end of the spectrum.
Does misandry exist?
In any classist system there is hatred running both directions, as well as self-hatred (frequently expressed as class guilt) for being part of a system that the individual is aware is unfair.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
To suggest that prejudice only expresses from the top of a hierarchy downward is disingenuous at best. Any unfair system breeds unreasoning and cruel behavior in all directions, including laterally.
What best describes you?
I am strongly for the goals of feminism … and masculinism … what I am opposed to is the inherent polarity of the terms. The NAME of feminism assumes things that are not part of the tenets of feminism.