About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
I would define patriarchy by it’s dictionary definition, and not the social definition that has been constructed via social media outlets and online campaigns and discussions. Dictionary definition: A system of society or government in which the father or eldest male is head of the family and descent is reckoned through the male line or A system of society or government in which men hold the power and women are largely excluded from it. The modern social definiton revolves around the Patriarchy existing as a general conspiracy to women. This has come about parimarily due to discussions on social media, the users have constructed a thesis, which is based on consensus amongst themselves, and not established fact. Whilst women are still being paid less in some circles, and unfair stigma still exists due to the result of age old sexism, this does not quantify proof that there is a conspiratorial gender driven ideology that actively and knowlingly oppresses women.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I am quite understanding and tolerant, I dont believe the traditional male role compels me to hurt or insult anyone based on gender identity.
How would you define masculinity?
By it’s dictionary definition: pertaining to or characteristic of a man or men or having qualities traditionally ascribed to men, as strength and boldness.
Does misandry exist?
I believe misandry exists as a consequence of sustained attacks on traditional gender roles, in the face of the social acceptance of diversified minority gender identity (homosexual and transgender gender identity). It is quite simply cause and effect, and is very real, such is sexism towards women.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
I have experienced the opposite sex calling for ‘equality through inequality’ regarding the gender equality issue, following the harmful rhetoric that men as a gender have some sort of debt to pay for our ancestral treatment of women in the past. This idea is actually what fuels a lot of the extremism in feminist and gender equality activists, as it is a very simple and neat idea which does not need to be examined much to be understood, therefore will be easier recieved than the results of sociological studies and charities working on the issue. Social Media helps keep perpetuate this simple and false idea that ‘men are to blame’ rather than constiuting any meaningful dialogue through understanding the current transformation and shift in perception with regards to gender roles.
What best describes you?