About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
Fake boogeyman used to scare people into following your ideology, akin to what the bourgeoisie is to communists, and what heathens are to religious folk.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
It hasn’t. I don’t need to blame a strawman for my failings. The life I live, the mistakes I made and the things I have achieved came from my own abilities or lack thereof. The patriarchy didn’t force me to drop out of high school. The patriarchy didn’t force my dad to go to prison. The patriarchy also didn’t force me to get a minimum wage job at a super market, and the patriarchy sure didn’t help me when I needed funds to go to college.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
How would you define masculinity?
Not needing a leader. Doing what’s best for yourself. Confidence. Nonchalance. Stoicism.
Does misandry exist?
Please don’t start with this. Some women hate men. Some men hate women. That’s just reality. Misandry exists, and misogyny exists, the same way racism and antiu semitism exists. Thats just how some people are.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Especially in situations of conflict. As a skater and general street punk I am often out late at night, and anytime there’s any conflict I am ordered to protect my younger friends and the girls I hang out with from potential harassers or the police, as if being a male makes me a kung-fu master and street fighting expert.
What best describes you?
None of the above
I am simply human, that’s all. I value each person separately. I don’t believe you need an ideology or a label in order to see people as equals.