About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
Like institutional racism but for sexism. It probably exists(ish), but I’m not convinced it’s a concept that really helps the gender debate.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I’ve probably been lazy in certain hiring/firing style decisions. Whilst I’ve tried quite hard not to be sexist professionally, I’m sure some women might observe that I have been.
How would you define masculinity?
I’m a classic quiche-eating sensitive type, but I’ve also become a confident decision maker as I’ve grown older. I’ve noticed that some women seem to be drawn more to the latter element. They find it a relief to be around someone who’s happy to take decisions. So would I come to think of it. Not really how I was brought up to be around women, so it’s come as a bit of a surprise, but I think perhaps that’s what some people mean by masculinity.
Does misandry exist?
Misogyny is obviously far more common, and more socially acceptable, and I’ve clearly seen more of that in my life. So it’s not proportional, but I think I do detect it on the fringe of gender debate sometimes.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
What best describes you?
I think I support feminism, and possibly meet the passive definition of a feminist, but I can’t pretend I spend a lot of time worrying about gender issues so I consider to declare myself a ‘feminist’ would be pretentious.