About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
The gestalt judgement of masculinity and femininity (or perception of of judgement) that guides our actions through guilt, pressure, tradition, and abuse.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
I was harassed persistently by a few people in high school for “being gay” or being “too feminine”. In elementary school, I was mocked and abused for wearing pink. These harms are relatively small, but consider the “gestalt” part of the patriarchy.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I was also kind of an asshole to others in ways I didn’t realize at the time, but now recognize as my own unwitting participation in the patriarchy. I objectified women (friends, acquaintances, strangers) in numerous ways that I didn’t fully understand at the time. I have hurt men as well, similarly to how I was hurt. Mostly it was through judgement and insensitive joking. Typically not directed at anyone in particular, but still presented openly without regard to other people’s feelings or identities.
How would you define masculinity?
Being a model representative of humanity, respecting people of all identities. Recognize cultural privilege, and use said privilege to improve the lives of marginalized people.
Does misandry exist?
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Only in a way that has advantaged me
Part of being a member of a privileged class is being blind to the ways I am beneficially treated compared to marginalized groups, but my current understanding of our culture suggests any prejudice I’ve received (especially later in life) is minimal or non-existent.
What best describes you?