About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
Societies that are controlled by and serve to grant advantages to men.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Whenever I’ve been bullied, mugged, harassed in public, etc. it’s almost always by other men. Not entirely sure why that is, but it can’t be a coincidence.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
A large majority of the music, books, Twitter accounts, films I listen to, read, and watch are made by men. Entertainment industries favour men but it’s my responsibility to do something about that, rather than waiting for more women to become successful. So I’ve contributed (still do, though I’m trying to be better) to patriarchy by ignoring women’s voices and favoring men’s.
How would you define masculinity?
However someone who identifies as a man chooses to express himself. That’s how I would define it if I could, but I think it actually means liking sports and meat and misrepresenting the dimensions of your external genitalia.
Does misandry exist?
Stigma against mental health treatment for men, the idea that women can act in a way that causes men to lose their agency and commit rape, the expectation that men should act in a certain way to be “manly”. Those are all symptoms of the patriarchy that hurt men and come from a lack of sympathy for men as human beings.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
What best describes you?