About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
The ingrained benefits of being a man in society.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
By assuming male and female genders have specific roles within society. Gender roles around children bother me greatly. I want to be a stay at home Dad and I want to play with my nephew in the park and not receive unpleasant looks from mothers thinking I am a paedophile. I want my future sons and daughters to express themselves freely without being criticised expressing themselves in ‘masculine’ or ‘feminine’ ways. Freeing women from the expectation of being the primary child carer will vastly help in both social and work related issues (for example the pay gap seems somewhat to be in part related to taking years out from work).
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
By forming social bonds with other men through ‘masculine activities’ which have subsequently been beneficial socially and professionally.
How would you define masculinity?
Masculinity to me in popular culture is at best football fans, beer drinking ‘lads’ and at worst knuckle dragging, domestic violence committing rapists. Older generations tended to believe it was all about being a bread winner and protector, obviously dependent on the notion women were the weaker sex.
Does misandry exist?
This box is tiny compared to the others for an important issue. IT ABSOLUTELY EXISTS and is incredibly detrimental to a truly equal society. When was there a mainstream media piece on gender that didn’t suggest being a man wasn’t like being part of an evil death cult (hyperbole I know, but it’s always always always negative).
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
I work in a female dominated environment and expected to adhere to male stereotypes (move things, construct office furniture etc etc.). I have also been sexually objectified and listened to others be sexually objectified.
What best describes you?
Discrimination is a blight in all forms. We need more fact based, pragmatic and less inflammatory discussion from everyone!