About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
A male dominated society that locks out any attempts to change society to a more equal form by rewarding those who reinforce the status quo.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
In two ways. Most importantly it results in the oppression of women, I know, am related to and am friends with women. The unfairness and abuse (even if sometimes very subtly) they experience is bad. Secondly, it creates an unhealthy expectation of what it is to be a man. This leads to anxiety and stress.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
As a child I went to an all boys grammar school, which although it did provide a good education, couldn’t help but be a hothouse of chauvinism and homophobia. Growing up and trying to fit in meant acting like an areshole, until I realised that it didn’t need to be that way. I’ve been much happier ever since.
How would you define masculinity?
The essential qualities of being a man. An essay could be written on this and what it means to me, way if means to others and what it should mean. What I would like this word to mean does not seem to be the same kind of masculinity portrayed in pop culture.
Does misandry exist?
Yes but not as a straight binary with patriarchy which is ingrained at every level of society. Some women hate men, I hate mayonaisse, the groups who feel this way do not mould the nature of society in the same way as patriarchy.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
There are expectations of what it is to be a man, I find these difficult amd in many cases undesirable to live up to.
What best describes you?