About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
An inherent aspect of our society which means that men, whether they are aware of it or not, receive a wide range of benefits that women do not – as long as they conform to an accepted construction of masculinity.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
I am an introverted, unambitious person, and I often find that my opinions are valued less than those who speak loudly and force their (not necessarily correct) views to be heard.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I have been treated in a different, more positive way to my female colleagues in previous jobs in mostly male environments. I did not challenge this when I should have done.
How would you define masculinity?
I wouldn’t. Everyone is different, and there shouldn’t be a standard by which we are judged to be “masculine” or “feminine”. That said, if I was pushed to define society’s standard of “masculinity”, I would say that it praises the ambitious, aggressive, boozing, sporting stereotype.
Does misandry exist?
Under its strict definition of “hatred of males”, then yes, of course. Some people do hate men, in the same way that some people hate women. It is not, however, an inherent part of feminism in the way that some men seem to believe.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Yes, both positively and negatively – but the advantages have far outweighed any negatives I can recall.
What best describes you?