Respondent 586

Does patriarchy exist?

Yes

How would you define patriarchy?

Rule of the father: assumption that women exist solely for men: people valued only for strength, power, influence, wealth and/or size of phallus: denial/punishment of emotional literacy/compassion in boys and men: adherence to rigid gender binary and caricatured gender expression: system of sexual normativity that punishes queer, poly and trans lives: etc

How has patriarchy hurt you?

Limited my ‘value’ to how far I can approximate limited version of masculinity: insisted I never cry or need a cuddle: created artificial distances between me and other men: policed my connections to women/ insisted I interpret those connections in terms of sexual availability or exploitation: policed my gender expression and circulated/normalised damaging homophobia and transphobia: legitimated a capitalist system which divides people into genders, classes, markets: told me that being a good father is about putting bread on the table only: etc

How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?

Used bullying and damaging terms like faggot poof pussy before I realised that I was reproducing something that I could resist and disrupt.

How would you define masculinity?

A social and cultural expression that anyone can adopt and discard at will. Nothing to do with having a particular body or particular organs. Something fluid, adoptable, adaptable, disruptive. Masculine women are as beautiful as feminine men.

Does misandry exist?

No

This term is an attempt by sexist men to evade difficult conversations about privilege. Bullshit in the same way as ‘reverse racism’

Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?

Only in a way that has advantaged me

What best describes you?

A feminist