About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
Rule of the father: assumption that women exist solely for men: people valued only for strength, power, influence, wealth and/or size of phallus: denial/punishment of emotional literacy/compassion in boys and men: adherence to rigid gender binary and caricatured gender expression: system of sexual normativity that punishes queer, poly and trans lives: etc
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Limited my ‘value’ to how far I can approximate limited version of masculinity: insisted I never cry or need a cuddle: created artificial distances between me and other men: policed my connections to women/ insisted I interpret those connections in terms of sexual availability or exploitation: policed my gender expression and circulated/normalised damaging homophobia and transphobia: legitimated a capitalist system which divides people into genders, classes, markets: told me that being a good father is about putting bread on the table only: etc
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
Used bullying and damaging terms like faggot poof pussy before I realised that I was reproducing something that I could resist and disrupt.
How would you define masculinity?
A social and cultural expression that anyone can adopt and discard at will. Nothing to do with having a particular body or particular organs. Something fluid, adoptable, adaptable, disruptive. Masculine women are as beautiful as feminine men.
Does misandry exist?
This term is an attempt by sexist men to evade difficult conversations about privilege. Bullshit in the same way as ‘reverse racism’
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Only in a way that has advantaged me
What best describes you?