About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
A rich boys club
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Probably not much but, as I don’t join in with the sexist “banter” which most men in charge engage in behind closed doors, I think I’ve probably not progressed as far in my career despite being more able than some. I appreciate that this is nothing compared with the glass (toughened glass, akin to concrete) ceiling that many women encounter in their careers. I think it’s important to note, however, that these boys’ clubs only benefit their members, others have to join in or they are left out in the cold.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
I hope I haven’t, but I would be surprised if I’ve never acted in a way because “that’s how it works around here” without thinking about challenging the system. Everyone can improve, no one should be judged on anything other than ability and character.
How would you define masculinity?
I’ve typed a lot in this box and deleted it. Leads me to believe that I can’t define it.
Does misandry exist?
I can understand why some women feel the way they do, but I have experienced hate on social media from so called feminists who give real feminists a bad name. I think that this is misandry.
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
I work in canary wharf, I used to work in the city. Sexism is more veiled than it used to be but is alive and well.
What best describes you?