About the show: Dave Pickering takes us on a personal journey through gender as he tries to explain masculinity both to you and to himself. Part true storytelling, part TED talk and part apology, the show looks at how the patriarchy hurts men too; how the patriarchy has hurt him, and how he has hurt people because of patriarchy. Drawing on an anonymous survey of 1000 men, feminist theory, internet memes and his life experience, Dave will explain the conclusions he Read More ...
Does patriarchy exist?
How would you define patriarchy?
A system whereby a single form of male gender identity is seen as desirable, and all other gender identities are seen as undesirable.
How has patriarchy hurt you?
Men are expected to be stereotypically masculine, however a lot of what makes someone masculine is hurtful. Most bullies I have known have been males acting in a masculine way and punishing others who don’t. Also I feel like most hostility towards LGBT people is based on the fact that LGBT folk subvert stereotypes of gender and masculinity.
How have you hurt people in a way influenced by patriachy?
Being raised to act in a traditionally masculine way means being taught to be emotionally distant from others, and disrespectful of other people’s boundaries, particularly women of feminine men, and I think that has been reflected in some of my past actions.
How would you define masculinity?
If femininity is seen as maternal, and so based on care, expressiveness and love, masculinity is the opposite, based on distance, self repression of emotion, and spite, which often get portrayed as just being strong or stoic.
Does misandry exist?
Have you experienced gender and/or sex related prejudice?
Only in a way that has advantaged me
As a trainee primary school teacher, I am one of the few men in my line of work, as working with young children is not seen as a masculine job. This does mean that i have found it easier than my peers to find work, but also means that often the children I work with encounter few positive male role models.
What best describes you?
An ally to feminism